Posted on 10/20/2022 2:54:23 PM PDT by nickcarraway
The "In The Loop" series Love Life digs into how Americans are dealing with the changing landscape of modern dating. Nearly half of U.S. adults, and a majority of women, say that dating has become harder in the last 10 years or so in the U.S., according to the Pew Research Center.
Anna Brown, a researcher who has written extensively about American experiences with dating and related issues for the Pew Research Center, gave Newsy some insight on the statistics.
"Men were more likely to say things like they had trouble approaching people, whereas women were more likely to give reasons, like it was just hard to find someone who was looking for the same type of relationship that they were or it was hard to find someone with kind of common interests," Brown said.
The most cited reasons behind the dating troubles included the challenge of finding someone who is looking for the same type of relationship: Whether it's casual romance or a serious courtship, 53% said this is a major reason. Other reasons included difficulty in approaching people at 46% and trouble finding someone who meets their expectations at 43%.
Those findings were based on data from 2019, and Brown's further research shows things seem to have only gotten worse during the pandemic.
While dating as a whole was regarded as hard by both single men and women, dating has been riskier for women in particular. Most women who identified as single and looking to date — 65% — said they experienced some form of harassment from their dates, such as being touched in a way that made them uncomfortable or rumors being spread about their sexual history.
Awareness surrounding these forms of harassment were heightened thanks to campaigns like the #MeToo movement, but 65% of Americans said that increased focus on sexual harassment and assault has made it harder for men to know how to interact with someone they're on a date with, begging the age-old question: Is chivalry dead?
"Women were far more likely than men to say that it's gotten harder because of risk, so that can be physical risk or emotional risk," Brown said. "Many people said that technology is the reason it's gotten harder. For online dating in particular, people tend to experience more severe forms of harassment."
Over the past decade, dating was already becoming more complicated in an increasingly digital America and the unique challenges that came with the rise of social media and dating apps. But singles have never been put to the test quite like they were during the pandemic.
Many popular dating apps reported a drop in the number of people actively dating, and those who did continue to date took things slower. Dating app data shows many used video calls and text messaging to get to know their match before meeting up.
Factors like a person's willingness to social distance and their COVID-19 vaccination status became a more prominent consideration for many looking for a potential partner, whether it was for the short term or the long run. As the pandemic's public health measures were politicized, it also trickled into dating, which was becoming more political in a post-Trump environment.
"We found that about half of people who have online dated in the last year say that it's been important to them to see someone's political beliefs on their online dating profile, and that is up considerably since 2019," Brown said. "We also found that most of that change was being driven by Democrats, and Democrats are more likely than Republicans to say that it's important to them to see that kind of information on someone's profile."
RELATED STORY Reality Shows Are Getting More Real When It Comes To DatingReality Shows Are Getting More Real When It Comes To Dating As pandemic restrictions eased and much of the country received their vaccines, dating began picking up again. Many predicted 2021 would bring a lot of summer romance, with people across the nation trying to make up for lost time.
While that was certainly true for couples, with many ushering in a wedding boom after a year of putting off weddings, that rush of singles people expected to see was closer to a trickle.
After a lonely year of social distancing, many singles who were looking to date reported a desire to do so more purposefully, taking their time to pick partners. This trend was especially true for single Americans under 30, who don't want to risk taking a potentially meaningful connections for granted.
Some of these efforts took on new forms for the singles, with many swearing off dating apps and trying to meet people through friends or organically while out and about.
But others are going even further in their mission to find love, like with the live dating show called "UpDating." It aims to mix comedy with a vulnerable, yet very public search for love. The show is followed by thousands on TikTok, with some videos gaining more than a million likes.
TBH I’ve given up on dating. It seems like all of the down-to-earth, conservative women are all taken by my age.
Are you a high value male? If not, then it's probably not worth your time, unfortunately. There are exceptions of course. But it's a different world we live in today.
Lots of supporting evidence now .. unvacced are getting sick from vacced ... its true
"Everywhere is freaks and hairies,
Dykes and fairies, tell me where is sanity?"
I see many feminized men in marriages Being a man is toxic according to the current culture. Women want both to be “equal” but also the deference and extra consideration and power that chivalry gave them over men. They want their cake and to eat it too. Men don’t know how to be. Boys being boys are toxic, demonized. Women are elevated in film, television, all media really. Men are buffoons, ignorant, lazy, thoughtless and wrong headed. There are analysis of advertising showing these portrayals. We’re in an era where women have decided men should be women too and either can be pregnant persons.
Feminism long ago abandoned equal opportunity and respect in favor of toxic dominance and control. People joke about incels and men going their own way movements but the Left are not asking themselves why are they creating these cultural shifts. They blame the men instead. We move further and further from conversations and into echo chambers. I already know how to be one of me—been me all my life. I need contrast and inspiration and some challenge in a relationship. There’s none negotiable values of faith, integrity and fidelity but there’s a wide spectrum of variety who holds similar values. On the other hand they’re getting harder and harder to find.
This seems to be an ancient problem.
Women drive the hookup culture now
I live for your posts. Waaaa! Teacher, women are so mean and selfish and just well, awful in general. Waaaa! Make them all go away. Waaa! 😆
IOW, the narratives and propaganda have worked.
If you’re serious, make sure to somehow figure out how to get mentions at TheDonald (patriots.win). You’ve probably already got that figured out.
Not on the market, been off for decades and don’t see that changing, but #PureBlood.
The old rules weren’t perfect - but they set boundaries and expectations.
That’s what’s missing today.
A man comes into a relationship after watching hours of cheap porn flicks and a women comes in after watching ME TOO revenge spin offs...
It’s not the ‘perfect person’ that matters - it’s how two people relate, support and love each other.
“take a page out of Capt. Kirk’s book: if you aren’t in a winnable situation in your game, change the game.”
Outstanding advice—applies to all part of life.
Keep changing the game until you find one you can win—and you will live long and prosper.
“Are you a high value male?”
There are ways to “hack the matrix” so you magically become high value in the eyes of particular women even though the vast majority of women outside of your normal social circle would continue to totally ignore you.
An example of this is being a “leader” in a particular hobby or profession that women admire.
Single pureblood here.
Have read about too many dating site horror stories. And also violent crazies popping up everywhere. I have become less adventurous going anywhere but work, home, shopping, etc.
Scary world these days.
Women who don’t respond to messages are rude. I move on to the next.
Women who don’t want Trump supporters have saved me some time.
If my fully vaxxxxxxed and boosted other half checks out early, then I am simply going to have to find one that's old enough to be legal but not old enough to have a long list.
If you have to be told what is causing the drastic decrease in life expectancy,.... HINT It's the vaxxxxxxxxines.
If my fully vaxxxxxxed and boosted other half checks out early, then I am simply going to have to find one that's old enough to be legal but not old enough to have a long list.
If you have to be told what is causing the drastic decrease in life expectancy,.... HINT It's the vaxxxxxxxxines.
Well ok its a blog too .. info exchange for transfusion
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