Posted on 10/15/2022 9:53:44 AM PDT by aquila48
Kelly Chang Rickert rose to TicTok fame by giving pithy advice so you don’t end up in her office asking her to litigate (or better yet, mediate) your divorce. Happily married herself, she reveals the top 5 questions you should ask before marriage so you don't end up divorced:
1. What is your credit score? (And ask to see recent credit report)
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2. Children
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3. Household chores
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4. Sex
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5. Health
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These questions are just the starting point. It is much better to have an awkward conversation now than having this conversation in front of your lawyer, or the judge in your case. Divorces and reveal embarrassing personal information, so if you cannot bring it up to your fiancé imagine how you will feel in a deposition.
(Excerpt) Read more at forbes.com ...
Prenuptial
Prenups do not hold up in court. She will claim she didnt understand it or that she felt pressured to sign it. Tossed out.
So no that actually is worthless. Its a trap of false security for the guy.
I don’t care what I “sound like” to you.
Wait a minute! Did you marry my wife?
That sounds like my experience.
It’s very true that we all have our own threshold for how much clutter we can tolerate.
Marriage is all about compatibility, and some of those things you don’t find out until you’re married a while. So being able to compromise is crucial.
You’ve done good. Congrats!
Bingo. Always meet the inlaws. If mom is fat, she will be fat.
men can have the girls sign prenups if they are that worried.
The most stable, happy marriages that you will see have two people who share a belief system and respect one another not just in word but in deed. That should be blindingly obvious, but here we are.
Figuring out if a potential life mate shares your belief system and will respect you is probably most easily done by observing the way they practice their faith, but some people are really good at not revealing or not understanding their true selves until after marriage. Still, if you start a relationship with someone who already can demonstrate respect and share a belief system, you are far more likely to succeed than if not.
Men need to beware of that. If you cannot stand your mother-in-law-to-be today, do not marry the daughter under any circumstances. For she will turn into a near carbon copy of her. Fortunately for me, I was always able to get along with my MIL but I never saw that coming as my younger wife seemed to have no resemblance to her mother whatsoever in either appearance or demeanor.
My other advice is that if your spouse wants to keep finances separate after marriage or have some kind of pre-nup, that is a warning sign that the marriage will fail.
My wife and I have pooled our finances since Day 1 and we both know exactly what the other is spending and so we save and plan together. In my opinion, that is the only way to do it. One side benefit is we never have to buy each other birthday or Christmas presents (as the other would see the charges and immediately ask what the expenditure was for). Instead we go to a nice restaurant or a weekend trip together to celebrate those things.
Trying to keep finances separate in a marriage never works well in my observations. For that sets up a situation where one spouse is trying to obtain or keep a financial advantage over the other.
Are you an associate of the Clintons?
I don’t think it is a hatred of women. It is a hatred of a rotten culture that has cheapened familial relations to the whims of marxists. Marriage is a bum deal for men with current laws and the reality is there is no good reason for it.
Credit scores reflect how good you are at keeping your word...
It’s not a score of ‘how much you’re worth’ - it’s a score of ‘how responsible are you are with what you have’.
“ Conservative or Liberal?”
Before you start dating
“I don’t care what I “sound like” to you.”
I didn’t ask you whether you cared what I thought. It was just a point of information.
Something you might want to ponder for your own benefit.
You come across extremely bitter. Must have had a doozy of a marriage(s). If you had asked those questions, do you think the result would have been different?
“Is your to-be mother-in-law fat?”
When my wife and I married she was a little slip of a thing, and weighed about 90 pounds. On our next anniversary we will be married 40 years. She is no longer a “little slip of a thing.” That’s nature at work. And, you know what? I love her more today than I did the day I married her.
I agree, especially second marriages, and especially if your incomes are vastly different
“ God does say a lot about staying single.”
Like what?
That's pretty much how it works in my home. My wife has no tolerance for unmade beds, dirty laundry and dishes in the sink. So she makes the bed, does the laundry and does the dishes.
I have no tolerance for clutter and disorganized drawers and cupboards. I also hate running low on food, supplies and other essentials. So I do most of the shopping and organizing around the house.
Seems to work well for us.
Amen. Looks first, then politics for me. And when I dated, I have to make them talk first before I spend any money. I see a bernie or Hope sticker at your car, I normally leave them standing there..
Well Health can change very quickly, one day healthy and the next not so much.
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