Posted on 09/25/2022 5:23:02 PM PDT by thecodont
It is a very modern dilemma. Should you hand your child a smartphone, or keep them away from the devices as long as possible?
As a parent, you'd be forgiven for thinking of a smartphone as a sort of Pandora's box with the ability to unleash all the world's evils on your child's wholesome life. The bewildering array of headlines relating to the possible impact of children's phone and social media use are enough to make anyone want to opt out. Apparently, even celebrities are not immune to this modern parenting problem: Madonna has said that she regretted giving her older children phones at age 13, and wouldn't do it again.
On the other hand, you probably have a phone yourself that you consider an essential tool for daily life – from emails and online shopping, to video calls and family photo albums. And if your child's classmates and friends are all getting phones, won't they miss out without one?
There are still many unanswered questions on the long-term effects of smartphones and social media on children and teenagers, but existing research provides some evidence on their main risks and benefits.
(Excerpt) Read more at bbc.com ...
No kids. No worries. Damm fool bringing a child into this world while having to ask questions like this. If you havent got this question figured out five years ahead of time then you are not prepared for parenthood and God help you and that kid cuz the world will answer for you and its guaranteed to be the wrong answer.
I pay less than $68 a month, and that includes the cost of my iPhone 13 Pro. I have no need for a land line. So I'm paying less than $8 a month more than you are for ancient technology. Quite frankly, I can't imagine having to go back to a land line and a flip phone. But the savings and convenience for than pay for that small difference.
This morning I got about $3 off my grocery bill by getting digital deals only available through the store's app. And that's on just two items. I save the cost of time and money by making remote deposits whenever I get a check. I pay all my credit cards with my phone as soon as I receive my bill by e-mail that I read with my phone.
Apple CarPlay in my vehicles allows me to navigate anywhere I'm not familiar with through the map on my phone. My credit card apps allow me to receive instant notification whenever a charge is made, so fraud potential is significantly reduced. Vehicle apps allow me to remotely start them from anywhere. I can also open my garage door from anywhere with an app.
I can order goods from Costco, Walmart, Amazon, etc from my phone. When I'm traveling, I can look up camp sites if I have my trailer. I can look up CCW laws for each state, so I don't run afoul of the law. I can make motel reservations through various apps. I can monitor security cameras in my home. There is so much more I can do with my iPhone. I can even make phone calls with it! Like I said, I could never go back to the days of land lines and flip phones.
I have still most all those advantages from my landline. I work from home.
If parents can’t take charge at home how are they supposed to lead the country as we the people
That call to duty…is that what people hate about Trump?
When a person is financially self-supporting.
Yep 12 was the age for my four kids. I’m kinda shocked at All the previous posts. Either they never had children or there were no cell phones when they were raising children. That Hass to be the only explanation. I thought they were a good motivator to keep them in line quite frankly. The boys are all in their 20s now and running their own lives and our daughter is 14 and learning the ways of life. But none of them got in any kind of trouble whatsoever. We have two grandchildren now and a daughter-in-law. Life goes on.
I’m chuckling out loud on my veranda having a la Gloria with my Rottweiler Rommel
I’m old too like most here
But I’ve still got kids
The average minor child watches less porn than average poster on this thread
The big distraction is video games
The killer of teen lust for boys
It baffles me
You’re an optimist by nature I see
Bttt
What you said
My kids are fine
Ask Matt bracken
You have to teach your kids despite culture degradation
I don’t fault what parents think best for their own parameters
And you can win this one just be diligent and ask what school says
Keep up like irate folks at school meets
The trance of video games is more insidious I think
Esp for boys
You can buy an unlocked Motorola phone for about $150 and then get a prepaid plan with 4GB data from Mint Mobile for about $200 per year, including taxes. That’s about $17 per month.
Buy a used phone that is last years model or the years before cheaply at say Amazon.
I have a Samsung S10 Plus that was $800+ when new but I bought it used at Amazon for about $250. It was in perfect condition. I liked it for the loudness of the speaker over my LG6.
You can easily find phones that are just as good for much less as the kid will drop the phone or have it stolen. A flip phone would be best. Do schools have pay phones ?
“...have a phone yourself that you consider an essential tool for daily life...”
I have watched a few police interegations online and the person will give up their phone without a lawyer present.
“So you don’t mind if we take your phone to make sure you weren’t texting during the accident do you?”
“I already told you - I wasn’t texting. Go ahead and check it. How long will that take?”
“Well, if we can take it right now we can get it to the tech guys ASAP and they take a few days to...”
“A few days!? But I need my phone, so you can’t have it.”
“Okay. That’s fine. But then we’ll just get a warrant and then once we receive it that is a lot longer process and you might be without it for a few weeks. But if we can get it moving now it will only take a few days. And we can put a rush on it so we can get it back to you sooner.”
“Oh - well then. Yeah, I guess just take it now then. I can get it in a few days then?”
“Sure - we’ll try our best, a few days.”
The cop reads the release form aloud. ANY evidence of ANY criminal activity found on the phone can be used! Not just limited to texting or use at the time of the accident!
“Yeah - okay - there. I signed it. You going to run the phone right over now so I can get it back?”
And do not send your children to any school that requires that he or she used a tablet or own computer.
From Dearmrsweb.com
Teaching Alcohol Use to Teens
Let’s talk about alcohol use and raising children to be responsible drinkers. I know that heroin addictions and deaths are getting a lot of press, but alcohol addiction claims the most lives here in the States.
Children of parents who are heavy and inappropriate uses of alcohol often become heavy and inappropriate user of alcohol themselves. Heavy daily use, frequent drunkenness, DUIs, and other alcohol fueled issues and dramas, like that punched out wallboard, all contribute to the most misuse of alcohol by the heavy drinker’s children as they trek into adulthood The work of these parents is to get sober and then recovered. Sobriety and recovery are two different things. Sober is just not drinking, but life is pretty much the same, angry, dramatic or disappeared. Recovery is about building a different life, not centered on alcohol, and thus becoming a person of integrity and improving social and family relationships.
The next group are parents who do not drink, ever. No alcohol in their house. These people either cannot drink themselves, do not care for it, have lousy memories of alcohol in the family, or have religious objections. This group of parents produce teens and adults that do not know how to drink. In college and young adulthood these young men and women are the second heaviest users of alcohol. Which exactly is NOT what these parents want for their children.
The third category of parents are the parents who use alcohol moderately and mostly in a celebratory way. (and Dear Mrs. Web does not mean Yay! The sun came up! Yay! The sun went down kinds of celebrations, either!).
These moderate-use parents talk to their children and teens about alcohol use and misuse. They disparage drunkenness and point out that responsible alcohol use is a hallmark of maturity. They show their children how to drink, for there is nothing sadder than an alcohol-poisoned teen explaining that he thought that 3 to 5 water glasses of vodka were normal party doses.
Teaching moderate drinking is providing children with an occasional glass of wine cut with water or beer with dinner. Yes, I said children, for if you think that a cram course of appropriate alcohol use at age 17 just in time for the Prom is going to cut it, you are wrong. You want your information and attitudes in their little brains WAY before the culture and their friends make inroads. You will offer them the occasional drink at home, perhaps once a month or so. You will talk to them about appropriate amounts in a drink and about prudent drinking, which is not more that one or two appropriately-sized drinks in an evening. You will have champagne at celebrations. You will have non-alcoholic beverages available to those who cannot/will not drink and explain to the children and teens, that alcohol is not for everyone. Older children need to understand appropriate times for drinking and discuss what to do if one finds that alcohol controls them. Discussing in a matter-of-fact way that there are some people that just cannot drink, just like there are people who cannot walk tightropes because of balance issues, or become bee-keepers because of an allergy. Not all people can do all things. Those young people need to be taught their other options and how not to drink in social settings and find lives without alcohol.
Parents with alcohol problems or a family history of alcoholism have a responsibility to talk to their children and teens about that history and the genetic influences of alcoholism. Parents who cannot drink or serve their children alcohol have a responsibly to tell their young teens what normative drinking looks like. It is a life skill that they may never use, but they need to know… like changing a tire…Dear Mrs. Web has never done it, bless you Triple A… but she knows all the details.
So, parents who are heavy users and parents who do not use alcohol both have children at risk for heavy drinking as teens and adults as well as alcoholism. Moderate using parents who are modeling responsible use of alcohol have children with more control, and less chance of alcoholism in their futures
Since you are not understanding:
we are effectively saying o e DOESN’T place one’s child in government schools EVER.
Umm, when is the right age to :
get pregnant
start heroin
start bullying
start any other self-destructive, expensive habit that will lessen your ability to hold face to face conversations?
My landline didn't have any apps, so all I could do with it was make phone calls.
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