Posted on 09/08/2022 4:32:55 PM PDT by Morgana
Teach your kids hand to hand combat as well.
Yep.
I raised my two sons alone. They are in their 50's now, and thankfully, never had an issue with being bullied. But if either one of them had, I would have been a screaming me-me at the school the next day, and the day after that if nothing had been done about it. I worked in NY State's prison system for 25 years, and would not have put up with that crap from a convict, let alone allow it to happen to my kids at school. I had a young mother living in the apartment next door. She took it upon herself to buy a beer keg for my underage son and his friends, and the day after I dragged his drunk ass out of a ramshackle hut in the woods, and I'd found out who had bought the keg, I went to her apartment, chewed her a new asshole, then turned her into the cops. And when that same son, at an even younger age, tried to shoplift something from the local drugstore, and the manager called me about it, I told him to call the cops. He didn't want to do it, but I told him if he didn't, I would, and so my son was finger-printed, and went through the whole rigamarole of Family Court. When I took the job in Corrections in 1980, I told my sons then, that if they ever got themselves arrested, and were sent to jail or prison, not to expect me to come visit them...ever. During my career, I saw too many mothers who would spend a weekend, sitting on a bus for hours, coming up from New York City, just to visit their convict son in prison, and in most cases, the first thing out of the son's mouth wouldn't be "Hi Mom...it's nice to see you," but "Hey, what did you bring me?" It made me sick.
Today’s 8th grade bully and his/her crew use highly sophisticated phone/internet bullying. This can even begin in 4th or 5th grade. Today they aren’t just after your lunch money.
You’re kinder than I.
i WAS BULLIED TOO.
This is part of school life whether you like it or not and the cycle won’t stop with this “be kind” nonsense..
Guess what? I GOT BIGGER and beat the sh*t out of them the next grade. The bad part my parents were called into the principal’s office and they thought I was the violent one!
Don’t know the year but another boy who had been bullied killed himself. The taunting school students who forced him into being an isolated outcast had just voted him number one nerd and that was the last straw.
His father, in tears, made a speech and said “To you he was a chance to make fun, to ridicule and laugh at him as being a nerd. To me he was my loved son and now he is gone from my life forever.”
Yes, kids should be taught to be kind, but as a parent you have to inoculate your kids against the kids who inevitably aren’t kind. I have told my kids from day one that their value does not come from what anyone thinks or says. Their value comes from the fact that God knew them before they were in their mother’s womb and created them as precious in His sight. Nothing anyone says or does can ever change that. So far my kids have fared well in that regard - they are now ages. 9, 12, 15, 15, 17 and 19.
Maybe more kids should be taught to fight bullies instead of just taking the abuse because they might get in trouble. This is sad all around where kids are mean to a kid who can’t find refuge from frequent attacks.
I was bullied too. This is normal and I am confused why Freepers think this is not normal..
I grew 3 more inches, then I beat up those 2 who took my lunch money the next grade, and then they called my parents lol. My Mom was mad but my Dad knew it had to be done.
'He loved sea turtles,' his mom recounted. 'He used to say "Don't use straws because they're bad for the turtles."
OK
I heard about a notorious bully that got invited to a party for the expeess reason of getting jumped and stomped. Apparently he looked like he went a couple of rounds with Mike Tyson, afterwards. His dad found out why he got stomped and made him go to school looking that way.
Bullying ain’t what it used to be. Teaching a kid to fight back, even if he gets hurt and loses, isn’t enough these days. Middle schoolers can easily be capable and willing to use guns and other weapons, and more importantly, operate in feral gangs that even attack large adult men or police.
She threw her white child into a school with 80% minority kids.That says it all
I am sorry for her loss but she is an idiot. There is no excuse for putting your child knowingly in that situation and no amount of whining to other parents that they should teach kindness is going to wipe away your guilt for not acting, nor bring your son back, nor change those cruel kids 1 iota.
80% minority kids
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Minority or Majority Kids?
I have not been blessed with children. I have heard that any turning in of a bully means both the perp and the victim are on suspension. This cuts down on turning them in and makes life easier for the school administrators and teachers.
Bullying is a criminal act of violence even if others wrongly disagree with me. I am right.
I was bullied in an isolated incident in junior high school. I always wondered why no one intervened as I was being beaten, totally at random, in the crowd of maybe 25 others who watched.
I didn’t get revenge and decided since I couldn’t tell where the four perps were and where they went later in life I would hate and be hostile to everyone on some level. Not a textbook “good thing.” A woman wrote a book Unworthy. She tracked down her old bullies and antagonists and confronted them (used internet and detective techniques of pretenses to disarm others’ reluctance to tell her where old enemeies were later).
I forced myself to be nice and was able to work successfully
from 1969-2017 and was often told “everybody likes you.” Bosses would get me to try to establish harmony between workers who were at odds and I always did it. A struggle against my inner anger but I made it.
Teach your kids to deliver a throat punch. Better advice.
> I was bullied too. This is normal and I am confused why Freepers think this is not normal. <
Evil exists, and always will. It is, however, a stretch to therefore call evil “normal”.
Please take a look at my post #55. The days of one brave little kid causing a bully to back down are pretty much over. I suppose it can still happen occasionally in a calm suburban school. But in my experience in urban schools, the bully wins, always.
Either the bully gang moves on to another victim, or the little kid transfers out. That’s it. And it made me sick to my stomach.
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