Posted on 09/03/2022 4:46:21 AM PDT by karpov
DEAR ABBY: Our daughter and her cousin are the same age. Both are medical school graduates. Eight months ago, when this cousin got married at an in-person wedding, he was showered with gifts from the family. My daughter, in contrast, had a private ceremony because of COVID concerns and sent a wedding announcement to the family. To the shock and amazement of my husband, my daughter and myself, not a single person in the family thought to send her a gift or even a card.
There’s no bad blood in the family. Everyone appears to love her. She is disappointed and devastated. Should I just get over this, or should I say something to the family? She and her husband live 2,000 miles away, and at this point, I can’t envision them making the effort to fly home and see the family ever again. — BAFFLED IN TEXAS
DEAR BAFFLED: I don’t think anyone intended to give your daughter short shrift. The rules of etiquette state that wedding gifts are required if someone is attending a wedding. While it would have been nice of these relatives to have sent a gift or at least a card, they were not required to. I see no reason why you shouldn’t inform these relatives that your daughter was deeply hurt that no one was inclined to send her and her husband so much as a congratulatory card.
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My 35 yo niece postponed her extravagant wedding for a year due to COVID...and ended up not getting married at all. Dodged a bullet I guess.
I’m married 34 years and I can only recall one of the gifts we received. A clothes dryer from my grandparents. And that thing is long gone!
A book store here in town is celebrating 35 years in business. They’re having a party. In order to come you have to show proof of vaxing and wear a mask. This is in Kansas! There’s no mask mandate in place. I wouldn’t go if you paid me.
Maybe the cheap family members assumed that there would be an in-person reception later. That is how people around are handled COVID weddings.
Shoulda held the wedding in a saloon. Drunk people are free and careless with their money and woulda stuffed $100 bills in her bodice.
My daughter got married five years ago. She had a great wedding reception at a lovely venue with good food and good music. Most of the so-called friends that attended did not give the couple a wedding gift. I am old school and I personally believe that was extremely bad form.
The daughter gave her family the incredible, highly valuable gift of not having to attend a wedding. I’ve had invitations to weddings that would have cost over $2k just to get there and stay one night, never mind the formal and other clothes required. She also saved her parents thousands by not staging an extravaganza. She’s not broke and doesn’t need the “starting a new household” items that wedding gifts traditionally provide.
Covid Girl’s family ought to send her cards and/or donate a few bucks in her honor to a charity she supports.
Obligatory gifts are an insult to everyone. The addiction to stuff is killing us.
Obviously, this was not a Goodfellows wedding!
And all Jewish mother’s think their sons are a gift from God.
The mother would merely be stating the facts. Why should anyone feel offended about honestly hearing the facts?
And sometimes, tossing a hand grenade is exactly what the situation requires.
Regards,
Ha. Thanks for saving me the trouble of posting that.
Parents need to accept that their own children have many sides to them just like they do. We all do. People could be crying for the groom still even now.
If I got a notification that no gift had been received and the bride was upset I’d probably go to the Dollar Tree and get a 50 cent card and type up an insert:
“Congratulations! A gift in your name has been made to the Human Fund - Money for People.”
Or, the bride looked like Marty Feldman.
“After two years of the scam if you didn’t know better, you deserve your media driven paranoia. This year’s flu, like last year’s misdiagnosed flu is no more dangerous to me, a healthy 66 year old, than was the 2018 flu strain.”
I have an acquaintance who is a healthy 45 year old. He got the delta variant early on, and still says he won’t tell just how bad it was; he thought he was going to die. He says the only thing that saved his life was ivermectin, and he got that because his father is a doctor. It took him months to get over it, and you can still see the effects in his face.
You mean you would nonchatlantly expose yourself to the flu or covid? The flu also kills thousands each year.
Covid did kill millions of people when it got going. After all, it was a bioweapon. Some had it with no lasting ill effects. But, no one knows the outcome until they have it.
And if you want to claim you were unconcerned about getting it, or the flu, you are either full of crap or stupid.
“Hope you are better now.”
It was in February. It took some time, with some lingering effects for about a month, but I got over it, thank God.
Doctors promoting masks and vaccs. Nothing else need be said.
“Obviously, this was not a Goodfellows wedding!”
You got that partially right. My Italian friends and relative were quite generous in their gift giving the others not so much!
I’m married 34 years and I can only recall one of the gifts we receivedI'm married 45 yrs and the only gift I recall was a really nice Hibachi from a friend. I wish I could find another one like it.
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