We paid for our kids’ college education. They helped with scholarships and work. We valued their being able to graduate without a loan burden. We taught them that this was a gift, because we love them and value their potential. They had to sign a contract saying that they would give their best efforts, call us regularly, go to church, and if they lost their scholarships they had to come home.
It sort of worked. Daughter graduated in the worst days of Covid. Son just started his last semester. Daughter is not making money like we hoped, but she got married and wants to start a family, not a career. Son is on track with solid career plans.
Appreciate that perspective. It is your choice.
To me, it simply seems like parents doing this are prolonging the “raising their kids” stage, beyond the normal legal age of 18 or graduation from High School.
It looks like you’ve made an attempt to hold your children to account, but I’ve had friends and seen over the years, that parents paying for their childs education, (or the child getting massive government loans) has led to the detriment of the child. They simple use their free time to party, and screw off instead of working for and earning it themselves.
Basically, my argument is that it build better character to have a person pay their own way, and the parents sit back in reserve to rightfully help if needed.