All those symptoms to me seem to indicate a long time hard core drug user. Meth, fentanyl, heroin, xanax, other pills, etc.
Try not to think too much about him. He’s not ever going to change.
Sorry, no help from here, but I’ll be watching this thread. With a word or two changed you could have been describing a niece of mine. Even ages are similar. I wish you well in your search.
He’s controlled by demons and you need strong spiritual leadership to help cast them out
can his dad talk to his doctor and tell the doctor what’s really going on?
he may be also self medicating besides what he is prescribed.
No trouble with the law? Amazed.
<< I once caught him bringing marijuana into our house and told him it could cost his beloved aunt (my wife), who I believe he really does love, the house she worked so hard for, IF the feds found drugs in the house and decided to prosecute. He told me marijuana was now legal in Caifornia and that that could never happen. >>
The nutcase is right about that, at least.
At this stage any conventional form of treatment is tossing time and/or money into a black hole. It ultimately is a spiritual thing and as the Good Book says “this one only comes out by prayer”. They need an rhema movement of truth to cut away decades of fog that can only come from heaven.
I do believe that MJ is legal in California as is growing and selling. There is some science that says MJ helps the condition, but I may be misremembering.
He sounds a bit like the brother of my ex-wife who is schizophrenic and is slowly going blind.
He is unable to work or hold a job, just sits in his apartment all day talking to himself. He too is not taking his meds. The family does what they can to help him, but there is not much they can do to beyond visiting as often as possible.
I would guess you need a legal diagnosis (psychiatrist, neurologist, medical tests like brain MRIs, etc) and the take steps to assume guardianship.
Any drug usage other than pot? ... Any criminal history, any arrests?
Give him a list of no-cost drug rehab places, then show him the door and tell him not to come back until he’s gotten some help and was staying with it. Stop with the worry and upset. It’s ALL up to him. There’s NOTHING you can do to straighten him up. Been there.
At 38 he can’t be changed, especially if he is truly disturbed. Keep away from him and help those close to him stay safe with the best advise. Let him drift and end where nature takes him.
Cut all ties with this guy. You can’t help him; he sounds what homelessness is made for.
In New Hampshire, in 1955, there were 6000 beds for mentally ill people who could not care for themselves or who were disposed to hurt other people.
Today, there are 135 beds for them.
And there are a lot more crazy people now than there were then.
I agree 100% with Georgia Girl 2 — unfortunately, he’s never going to change. Honestly, if he’s as scary as you say he is, he’s possibly a danger to himself AND others. I’d be cautious if I were you.
There is a saying in the addiction community: “If nothing changes, then nothing changes.” He has to want to change, first.
You can’t make him. But God does weird things, so get him involved.
Find a good church that will pray for him. Then find help within that church family to set up an intervention; meaning, a clear presentation of the Gospel of Jesus Christ, the offering of a new path that leads to a life with purpose and peace, vice the eternal destruction he is facing.
Having done that, it’s placed in God’s hands.
Have a younger relative who was diagnosed as schizophrenic (hereditary, not my side). He is in a group home currently. He was a danger to his parents and is not allowed to be alone with his mom. His father passed last year.
This is in Ohio, states may differ. You might start with social services.
He’s 38... Little late to be getting help. He’s past that stage and has made his own decisions good or bad
Tough love... Be done with him till he gets his shxt together.
That works?!
Thanks for the advice!
Seriously: Except for the one line ("He mutters and talks and shouts to himself and erupts in scary outbursts for no apparent reason, in private and in public."), there's nothing in your posting to indicate that he is actually, you know, a bona fide psychotic.
You said it yourself: He's obnoxious.
But if your reference to "anti-psychotic medication" which has been prescribed is to be believed, then - All right!
My only (admittedly paltry) advice to you is: Seek legal counsel! Inquire into the possibility of getting him committed. Perhaps you could at least get him to be determined, by a Court of Law, to be legally incompetent. That might lessen the havoc he might otherwise unleash.
Regards,
Move away and give no forwarding address to anyone. There is no magic formula where you can step in and show the world how awesome you are at fixing people