“If he had said that to the victim’s friends and/or family I would certainly agree with you. But he didn’t, and nothing he or anyone else says about it is going to change a damn thing. It is what it is, no more, no less!”
So it’s wrong to say that to the victims friends or family. Why? Because it would be hurtful and insulting and ultimately unnecessary. If it is wrong to hurt and insult the family and friends needlessly then how is it OK to offend people who sympathize with the victim and the family?
“how is it OK to offend people who sympathize with the victim and the family?”
Nobody offends anyone else. You are choosing voluntarily to be offended. Don’t blame someone else for your own free choice.
If it is wrong to hurt and insult the family and friends needlessly then how is it OK to offend people who sympathize with the victim and the family?
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(1) The person who made the statement that you find offensive may ALSO sympathize with the victim and his friends and family.
(2) The person who made the statement is under no moral obligation to refrain from expressing his thoughts because of the possibility that someone other than the victim’s friends and family might be offended by them. That, as they say, is simply a bridge too far.