One of my best friends went gay in the mid nineties. He moved to West Hollywood and joined the culture. Then he hit fifty.
He had already locked out all his friends. 5 years ago, he committed suicide.
That is the number 1 cause of death among homosexuals. They most often die by killing themselves. There is nothing "gay" about the shells of lives they endure.
Did you ever get to talk to him before that?
Took that walk on the wild side, eh?