I've heard that women go looking for the perfect man. And when they find him, they insist on changing him into something that more perfectly matches her standards. But men often do not like to be changed. This can be a sore spot and lead to many divorces.
I've also heard that men go looking for the perfect women. And when they find her -- slim, pretty, 24 years old or so, they insist that she never change because she's perfect just the way she is. But time moves on and women do not stay 24 forever, and sometimes not even quite so slim and pretty. This can be a sore spot and lead to many divorces.
Women marry men hoping to change them
Men marry women hoping they stay the same.