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My first husband lost his wife because his mother not only liked his former girlfriend better, but told the wife she’d never accept her because of that. The wife could not live with that because family love and approval was very important at that time, a divorce was forthcoming…The wife of today would have told her to kiss a rosey red target.

Highly annotated but a true enough story.

My father warned me to never attach to a man who is overly attached to his mother and, if I did, it wouldn’t end well for me. A man should cleave unto his wife (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5). There’s even a song with that advice with the line “A man shall leave his mother and a woman leave her home.”

I just call them Momma’s boys, and they’re not to be dated and certainly never married. Same with women who are under the thumbs of their mothers. Steer clear or try to enjoy a marriage between three people.

I have a son and am well aware that when he marries, she will be the lioness at the gate of my relationship with him and their children. Getting along with her will become the focus of my life - after my man of course 😁

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hR051uCNrAw

I broke things off with my first fiancé and my family was devastated.

a year or so later, I was engaged to another woman...my current and only better angel.

Being Irish, my grandmother proceeded to cut the old girlfriend out of every picture she was in. The rest of the family still liked the old GF and kept calling my new fiancé by the name of the old GF.

My better angel could hardly stand it. I had to sit her down and we had a discussion. We were marrying each other...not the family and this too shall pass.

My mom left when i was 5 so she had no MIL to deal with. Her mom was adorable and her family the salt of the earth straight shooters.

Turns out, my family can't get enough of her...I get invited places just so I bring my wife.

When my wife (Japanese) and I approached my mother-in-law to get her blessing to get married she would have none of it. (Dad had passed years before but I still felt it was important.

We met her on Saturday in Nagasaki. On Sunday my wife’s sister’s were packing her apartment in Osaka. On Monday her boss told her he was sorry to hear that she wasn’t going to be able to stay with them any longer (mom-in-law talked to her aunt who called her boss saying there were some family matters that Yumiko had to take care of at home).

I had to deploy shortly. So she moved in with her youngest sister for a bit. When I got back we moved her up to my apartment. Ship went out for an exercise, I flew her in to Hawaii, we got married. Mom-in-law basically disowned her.

Few years passed. Had our first child. Mom-in-law found out from the sisters. Called and asked if she could see the baby. Told my wife, ABSOLUTELY - IF she accepts me. She was ecstatic - not even her first grandkid.

Few years later her youngest sister got married. Traditionally in Japan, since my wife is the oldest sibling and there are no sons, then I am kinda the “head” of the family. Guess who gave the sister-in-law away at the wedding. That was her mom’s way of telling EVERYONE that she had accepted me.

If we lived in Japan then her mom would be living with us instead of with her sister. I invited her here, but she said she’s too set in her ways and would miss home too much.

It’ll be 28 years come June for us.