I joked with a couple of friends that you need to be compatible regarding faith, family, finances and toilet paper. Seriously I advise couples to concentrate on being each others’ cheerleaders, not their coaches. There are plenty of coaches in the world but never-failing cheerleaders are rare and so needed. There’s a good reason why coaches and cheerleaders are not the same person: if people need to know what to do, they look to the coach; if they need to believe in themselves, they look to the cheerleader. If your spouse doesn’t know, when walking in the front door, whether you will greet them as a coach or a cheerleader, he or she will look for cheerleaders elsewhere. Btw, married 36.5 years.
Well said.