Since marriage is a partnership as opposed to a business contract, it is grossly unjust to expect one person to shoulder the full responsibility for the success of the relationship.
Theoretically, yes, marriage could be 50/50, but each person should be willing to give that 100% when necessary.
There is plenty of blame to go around on both sides, but it does no one any good to broad brush an entire group of people based on a bad personal experience.
It’s always 100% each.
Full effort, full commitment.
HOWEVER...sometimes one person’s 100% is not at great as the other’s.
I view it as each is a vessel which is completely full. Maybe one day I’m a 16oz glass, completely full and that same day she can only be a thimble, but she’s completely full also. Both always full of commitment, but life circumstances are such that the size of the vessel carrying capacity can change. Don’t be a half full vessel. Half full vessels say things like; “I don’t care” and “I’m going to do what I want anyway” =o/
Just always be a full vessel.
...that is all