If men treated their women as well after marriage, when they are wives, as they did before marriage, when they were girlfriends, they’d find they married their girlfriends.
Women like romance and to be made to feel important. The emotional aspect of relationships is what speaks to a woman. Reducing it to satisfying men’s bodily functions is simply using them and women are not so stupid as to not see that.
I wish it was that simple. I have been successfully married for over 33 years, but after the ring went on, the rules changed.
My grandfather told me: Wives want their husband to change after the wedding, but the men never do. Husbands want their wives to remain the same after the wedding, but the women never do. He was right.
” Reducing it to satisfying men’s bodily functions is simply using them and women are not so stupid as to not see that.”
I admit it is a crass over-simplification. But the POINT is that if a woman isn’t doing those two things then everything ELSE she does will still not make for a happy marriage. You can wash and wax your car all day long but if you don’t put in oil and gas it will never move. Some things are foundational.