I know exactly what you mean by snobbery and elitism.
I dated a Jewish girl in college for a while. I came from a family with means but her dad and mom still looked down on me. They were always nice to me but gave off unwelcome clues I was not welcome to marry their daughter. She was given strict orders, marry Jewish or she would be cut off.
She was going through a divorce and mid life crises a few years back and contacted me on FB if I was available, was I happy and asked if I was open to rekindle the relationship.
This will offend many, but I'd be very hesitant to marry a divorcee. Second marriages have even higher odds of ending in divorce than do first marriages.
These days men, especially men with assets, have to be careful about marriage.
And? You can’t leave us hanging like that. Not that it really matters in the whole scheme of things.
Same happened with me, I was in love with a Jewish boy and his family looked down on me. We dated 5 years, then I saw it was fruitless.