You see a lot of YouTube videos of people eating whole peppers but that’s mostly stunts. You can control the heat of even the hottest peppers by turning them into powders and sauces. An 1/8 teaspoon of powder can warm up an entire pot of Spaghetti sauce yet still make it tolerable for most people.
I agree with you. I have seen the stunts, and I do sneek cayanne into my sauces and no one seems to notice.
Another way is to cook your barbeque for for 7 to 9 hours. It “milds” out the heat and leaves the taste. (I have not done this kind of cooking in a number of years.)
I am glad that you have access to your lower terrace where you can do your gardening!