Good post....no kidding I've been through same thing
My ex has actually told my daughters I didn't pay child support....
44,000 a year from 1994-2007
My wife..#2....wrote the checks....monthly support ...school..insurance..braces..clothes ...etc...college is of course later...
Oldest came at 2002 to me....younger daughter the next year but I paid full ticket till 2007 just so she didn't make things too crazy
And cray cray she is...but damn she was pretty in her 20s
I was husband two of five....last one tried to kill her...seriously...nuts....he did several years in Washington state...for that...I used to warn her you're going to anger the wrong man one day
So yes.....ex wives ....who in general even the good ones will poison father children relationships when it suits them....will lie and say dad didn't pay child support
You just have to pay it and be there and fight for your rights....my dad helped me ....I woulda been screwed otherwise......best you can do. Honor and duty even if she does flip them...
It's not about that....it's about dad keeps his honor and is there for his kids even of ex goes full harridan
Moral...choose your wife carefully.....all women can go south....even the good ones...the good ones it's usually just temporary and they bounce back to that dear sweet thing you were first attracted to to begin with
Children suffer enormously when one parent is cray cray....and acts out in their own self interest in spite of the kid
Bashing the other parent is poison but sometimes you have to respond to allegations
Think Bush and the media....
My parents divorced quite amicably and I grew up never hearing phrases like "child support" or "custody" or "weekend visits". They encouraged my relationship with each other and even each other's new spouses. I wound up living with my father more than my mother, but visiting my mother a lot more than just every other weekend. There were times my father would drop me off at my mother's and my step-father would holler out to my father to come in for a visit and drink a beer. When my mother would take me clothes shopping every year there would come a point where she'd make sure I'd see the cash in her billfold and tell me that my father gave that money because he loved me. Then I'd get home ("home" being my father's house) and my father would tell me that my mother took me clothes shopping because she loves me.
Then I grew up, got married, had a couple of kids, and wound up divorced simply because I refused to move to live in whatever town my in-laws moved to every time they moved. My ex decided that was reason for divorce and that divorce meant total war. I can sing the same song many men sing about having to go to court to have visits with my kids, my kids being taught I send no child support, that I'm abusive, that I'm everything but a Democrat voter. Sometimes I'd counter it with proof that they were told lies. But usually I'd change the subject to make the visit enjoyable.
Then I got custody and my ex had to pay child support. Trust me, men don't get half as mad about that as women do, even though they rarely have to pay half as much as men. I thought my ex fussed before, I hadn't seen nuthin' yet.
One of the requirements I had for a new wife is that she didn't get into all of the drama and that she encourages love even when ex's don't. So the kids in our blended family got to focus on loving God and others most days and let the drama teachings occur only in the limited times they're with their other biological parents (and unfortunately sometimes grandparents). Even when I had to file motions to get the court to force my ex to pay child support (including things like garnishing tax refunds), my kids never heard about it from me. Eventually each one of the kids reached an age where they realized the drama they heard from their other biological parents was as much BS as when Democrats say they'll raise taxes on only the rich. They also apologized for believing evil things about us and promised to do like my wife and I do. I've heard each one of them on separate occasions during visit swaps when their biological parent (either my ex-wife or my wife's ex-husband) would stir up drama and the kid would tell them they didn't want to hear any of that immature bullcrap because they're ready for a visit, not drama. And all of the kids grew up having an eye for people like me or my wife (the son/step-son wanting a woman like my wife, while daughter/step-daughter wanting a man like me). I truly believe it was because doing things God's way first leads to God blessing you so others, especially your kids, can see how will it works putting Him first.
Because I represented myself in court from the point I won until the kids were grown, I had to get into the ins and outs of how child support is calculated. Before that I wasted way too much money going broke paying for attorneys to pretend to represent me but not really.