I commend you for trying to find a career. I myself am more of a paraprofessional than a professional. I provide assistance, do basic chores, etc. I lack the discipline, focus, and (I’ll admit it) talent to really take anything to the higher level.
Nevertheless, I find satisfaction in my work. And, I am paying my bills, as well as giving charity to my community. We don’t have to seek identity or fill a void through work, but (unless we were born into privilege like the young lady in the video), we acknowledge the obligation.
YOu sound like a poster of Wisdom. It took me a few years to reach those same conclusions about identity. It took a long time.