Posted on 05/03/2021 6:53:33 AM PDT by C19fan
Single men assume women are only drawn to tall, dark and handsome dates - but according to these Australians, it's much more than good looks.
Dating coach Louanne Ward, from Perth, has prompted a discussion in her Facebook group, She Said He Said, asking female members to list the traits they find most attractive in a potential partner.
'Ladies, could men be right in thinking getting a date is harder if they aren't measuring up in the looks and height department?' she wrote in a thread.
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Back in 1980, I dated an absolute stunningly beautiful young woman who was a Navajo Indian. One day she invited me to her families Sunday dinner. Mom and her 3 sisters were all extremely obese.
After dinner, she kissed me goodnight, but I kissed her goodbye.
Yes men value looks. That is just nature; men are hardwired to seek fecund women, and certain characteristics that indicate fecundity attract them.
Looks are nice to a woman, but a man’s looks can be overlooked if his personality overtakes them. I have met good-looking men who are not very nice. After discovering how nasty they are, I have noticed how they just don’t seem handsome anymore. Likewise, I have known homely men whose looks just seemed to improve because they are so much fun to be with.
I can give you a perfect example of this with a celebrity. I used to practically swoon when I saw the actor George Clooney. Now that I know what an America-hating leftist he is, he does not appear handsome to me anymore.
Yes, it is true that women do factor in a man’s income. But that is also nature; a woman is hardwired to choose a mate that can support her and their children.
In my experience, people are remarkably bad at telling strength and confidence from narcissism and other personality disorders.
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Copy that!
I unwittingly got myself involved with three different younger women who all had a history of having problems with their fathers. Now I think it could explain why their parents were all divorced!
Mrs. Crusher and I just celebrated our 35th anniversary.
Over the years of our marriage, we have shared our parents’ reservations about each other.
Her family warned her that I was not ambitious enough and would manipulate her emotionally. They were one for two.
My family warned me that she was privileged and spoiled. They were two for two.
All that being said, the challenges have brought us closer together. We still love each other very much. Starting a business with her as my partner has put a damper on monetary complaints...she knows what we have. We also spend A LOT of time together, which actually helps.
My advice? Shared values, religion and interests help get through the rough patches. Be open and honest with each other. Love forgives AND forgets mistakes.
“stunningly beautiful young woman who was a Navajo Indian”
American Indian women do not age well. Neither do dot on forehead Indians.
One of my wealthy dot on forehead clients son went back to India for a bride back in late 90’s.
She was so beautiful it took your breathe away.
I saw her a few years back and could not believe it was the same woman. She is now about 40 but looks 70.
White European women age about the best though obesity has reared its ugly head with too many.
I ain’t cutting off half of it for nobody!
One of the most important attributes...
I’m a woman, and I agree with Honey Bear.
Six inches, six-pack abs, six figure income. Alternatively, you can add six feet tall.
These are MINIMUMS.
I mean Harmless Teddy Bear.
I’m not mentioning any names, but there are more than a few FReepers who make your list, who seem bitter and resentful towards women in general. (Yet complain they can’t find a good one). Note to those FReepers -— successful couples EACH care about the good of the other, over oneself.
When courting my wife, I sent her a joke in a letter : “ I have size 13 feet - you know what they say about men who have big feet - they wear big shoes!”
She tells me from that point on - she knew I was good...
I agree. I don’t blame women for being what nature has made them any more than I blame men for being what nature has made them. I’m not making value judgments on for example women preferring taller men (taller = more status in survey after survey after survey) or for placing importance in the amount of resources a man brings to the relationship. She has to consider how well a mate will take care of her when pregnant and afterward how well a mater will be able to take care of the kids.
Nor do I blame men for preferring 21-22 year olds even when they hit 50 or 60 or whatever age or for placing a strong emphasis on secondary sex characteristics that are all signals of youth and health.
We are hard wired to like the things that lead to successful procreation and child raising. That holds true even if neither the man nor the woman want kids. They are just going to innately prefer all the indicators anyway. There’s no point in making a value judgment about it. It just is. Its nature and its not going to change.
I agree with all that you said.
Of course, those factors apply mainly to the initial attraction. The wise man or woman will use wisdom to examine the potential mate’s other characteristics.
What is game?
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