That is true.., my sons SO made the decision to keep her mother in one after she had done a rehab after surgery.. There is no reason for the woman to be there, she is oriented and communicates well, needs a little help getting around, nothing that a home health aide couldnt handle.. ..but that would require the daughter to find help and make arragements and cover for the aide if she couldnt make it.. KARMA can be a B*tch
Oh man... I have stories from the kids... I opted to not do that. Dad has dementia and we decided to become semi-tired and take care of him in this time of need rather than throw him in jail. We live very rural, next to each other, and have family dinner meals.
His “necessity” to take care of himself everyday with his list of personal chores and hygiene he has to do for himself, including breakfast cereal in the morning and sandwiches for lunch has helped maintain brain function and independence to a great degree.
He has remained functional because of it. When this started he was almost dead from pneumonia, My wife and I rehabed him back to the state his is in now which is functional. Social interactions are a bear, but being very rural there are very few of those to worry about.
I owe my father a lot... We are not doing to bad in life and have upstanding kids and Grandkids. And we owe it all to the help he gave us over the years when we really needed it. Starting with the financial collapse during the Carter Administration. So many forget so fast and only care about themselves...