Or the fact that the Asian culture — whether it's Chinese, Korean, Japanese, etc. — is unbelievably racist against any race not their own! OMG, the stories I have heard from Caucasians who are married to Asians... their in-laws were something out of a nightmare. I used to work with a Korean girl (first generation American-born) whose marriage to a white guy caused her parents to launch a passive-aggressive, racist coup that literally broke her marriage apart. One of my best friends from high school is a white woman married to a Chinese man (practically unheard of) and his mother is, as she terms it, "a piece a work" who has no problem verbalizing the fact that she thinks her daughter-in-law is "of low birth" and insinuating that their children might be retarded because they are half-white. And don't even get me started on the Chinese/Hawaiian family I used to know who treated their black son-in-law like he was an untouchable pariah...
In college I was friends with a group of Chinese students from Malaysia and the things they would say about Korean students or Japanese students was the type of stereotypes used in the old south here. They made it a purposeful effort to avoid any contact with black students and I caught them once actually referring to them as rats. They even segregated among Chinese based on which dialect one spoke, they spoke a Cantonese dialect and looked suspiciously on those that spoke Mandarin.
For a race of folks that are accustomed to factory level human extermination, organ harvesting and slavery and who embrace totalitarianism like a drunken sailor being towed by the sirens rock THAT is a peach!
My wife’s Japanese, ponygirl, and yes we dealt with the mother issue at first. She bluntly ‘disowned’ or disavowed my wife for a few year. Wife’s mom and dad had a rare (at the time) divorce when the kids were very young and he’d passed on in his 40s so I never had to deal with the Dad.
Then....grandkids....she needed to see them..needed it. Her way of apologizing was to have me act in the role of giving away my wife’s youngest sister at her wedding. With that I became head of the family - in a way, as my wife is the eldest of 3 girls. Mother-in-law stays with the youngest and hubby now and isn’t treated the best in my mind. I offered to bring her over, but naturally she felt she was too up in years to try to adjust. Given the other 2 son-in-law’s and 4 grandkid’s performance to date, I have a feeling she appreciates me a lot more then she lets on.
There is definitely a cultural issue in most Asian groups that goes back thousands of years - they are not only patient generationally about their future moves, but also have very very very long generational memories.