It’s hard to get over the murder of a child, It’s been since 1989, and I still grieve. I got over the loss of my 33 day old born with a Viral infection, long ago, doesn’t mean you don’t grieve.
Letting go is not easy when there is Injustice. And you have to fight for what little you can eke out. Sickness you can comprehend easier. Some Sociopath wanting thrills killing your child is NOT. There is always who will be his next victim after serving only 8.5 yrs out of a 20yr sentence.
Thank you for correcting the oh so tough Freepers on this thread. One never lets go. They can go on, but the love and loss is a constant companion.
Had someone had a gun at every mass shooting, the odds are good that innocent lives would have been saved and the perp made impotent in the entire meaning of the word. But, such grief makes it difficult to see that. E.g. Gabby Giffords who is still alive with all the mental, physical and emotional effects of such violence.
Save your lecture, my point is dims have no problems saying these things to conservatives but we have to walk on eggshells to accomodate them!
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious child, Gail. My daughter and only child died in her sleep in 2009. We had dinner with her the night before, and she was fine. It took months before we knew the cause. One never “gets over” the loss of a child. As another bereaved mother told me, it gets less bad. The waves of grief get farther apart, but they still come and will come until the day we die. Hugs to you.
Yep! You are right. Even though the head knows what it needs to do, the emotions have a mind of their own. Until the head and heart come together, letting go can’t happen. Thats the place where healing begins.
What the rep said was true, and I’m sure he meant well and was trying to be helpful, for the recipient of those words, it can seem cold and insensitive.
Healing begins when it begins; not before.
It absolutely sux being stuck in that spot. One hungers for ‘normalcy’ and it won’t happen.
The only normalcy you can have is to learn to live with the new ‘normal’. The dacts will NEVER EVER go away. All you can do is get tired of carrying it...the emotional burden, and set it down for even a minute. It can come as a surprise when you realize that you went a whole minute without thinking about your loved one and what happened.
Yes, sickness loss can be different because in most instances, you have time to adjust yourself a bit, and its not a sudden, unexpected trauma. Its traumatic but not a violent one.
There’s a sort of spirit behind a murder that continues to reverberate for a very long time.