Yep! You are right. Even though the head knows what it needs to do, the emotions have a mind of their own. Until the head and heart come together, letting go can’t happen. Thats the place where healing begins.
What the rep said was true, and I’m sure he meant well and was trying to be helpful, for the recipient of those words, it can seem cold and insensitive.
Healing begins when it begins; not before.
It absolutely sux being stuck in that spot. One hungers for ‘normalcy’ and it won’t happen.
The only normalcy you can have is to learn to live with the new ‘normal’. The dacts will NEVER EVER go away. All you can do is get tired of carrying it...the emotional burden, and set it down for even a minute. It can come as a surprise when you realize that you went a whole minute without thinking about your loved one and what happened.
Yes, sickness loss can be different because in most instances, you have time to adjust yourself a bit, and its not a sudden, unexpected trauma. Its traumatic but not a violent one.
There’s a sort of spirit behind a murder that continues to reverberate for a very long time.
Called INJUSTICE and PAROLE HEARINS, EARLY RELEASE., I started CARRYING the year before he was release because of his threats. I’ll shoot to kill.
What makes it worse is parents dealing with Death Row inmates, 30 yrs or more waiting for justice, when there Is DNA PROOF, CONFESSION, LED POLICE TO DUMP SITE. And your little girl is just 8 yrs old, raped and murdered, never ends.
I’m already having crying jags and it is not April. How much of my health issues was caused by the stress of my son’s murder, BTW the 8 yr old is my BFF little girl, just a year later.