A "paternalistic society" is one in which fathers shelter their daughters from interactions with malevolent scum - and we no longer live in such a society, no matter how much feminists rant to the contrary.
There’s plenty of strong, Conservative White males.
Women are more susceptible to the whims of society.
They watch tv/movies and follow societal norms more often.
White males largely make up combat MOS’s, and blue collar tough jobs. We’re just demonized by media.
I believe you are right that most women are drawn to masculinity. No matter what the social experimenters claim or push. It is nature.