So glad you have a good brother to share those experiences with. I also share experiences with my brother like that. It does help but I’m sorry you did lose her.
For any of you who wonder how it is going so far:
Mom actually seems more alert when I brought her home than before she left, but has been quite traumatized by the hospital experience.
She has gone on and on about how they had to restrain her (not how she expressed it, just kept showing me her wrists and telling me they put something on them to hold her in bed) and it hurt. Evidently all the tests they did, x-ray of back, ct of head, ct of stomach, she had to be taken and returned to room, hurt her back because of her compression fractures they found (3). She has only eaten half a bagel with cream cheese when she got up yesterday and a bit of mashed potatoes, and says she will eat but wants to take it slow. No matter my insisting. She is still sleeping at this time and slept all night and so I do have to get her up. She will only drink coffee or tea and did have two cups of coffee and a cup of tea, and part of a cookie. Today I’m hoping she will do more than that. The nutritionist called me and told me to give her anything with high fat content and hopefully she will eat better today. She really does have pain in the back and so between that and the hospital experience she is so worn out. I do not want to leave her in the bed because she can get pneumonia, which the chest x-ray showed that vs possible atelectasis (the bottom of the lung closed down) so I must get her up. The chairs I have hurt her back and my husband is going over to her house to get a soft office chair that is over there. Thank you for asking :) I know this does not sound optimal but that is what the situation is so far.
Thank you. It does help to have siblings, as crazy as they make you in other areas of life!