Posted on 09/14/2020 3:32:09 PM PDT by nickcarraway
Being extremely wealthy isnt the carefree, champagne-soaked free-for-all you might imagine it to be at least according to Jennifer Risher.
She and her husband, David, earned tens of millions of dollars in the tech world before the ages of 35, and suddenly found themselves in an elite tax bracket without a manual on how to navigate the potential pitfalls of isolation and strained social relationships.
We see wealth from a really narrow perspective: the glitz, the glamour and the greed, but we dont see the reality, Risher, 55, told The Post. Money is a taboo subject, but it really shouldnt be.
(Excerpt) Read more at nypost.com ...
Love it!
“I estimated my wife has spent $600k on her horses since we married 22 years ago. Rent at $450 per month per horse for 5-6 years before we bought land, new state of hobby horse barn, land, fencing, riding arena, more horses, feed, truck, tractor etc.”
Guys..never ever marry a horse gal. I’m serious here. They are a different breed. Horses are #1 priority in their life and I’m not speaking figuratively. I love my wife but if I had to do it over....not sure on most days.
You guys who have dated or know horse women know what I am talking about.
I had to read the article twice, just to be sure the title wasn’t just being unfair to the couple. The quote “My name is Jennifer, and Im writing about how hard it is to have a lot of money” is sure to rankle people, and for good reason.
There is no reason whatsoever to be ashamed of wealth, especially wealth gained. via real work. That guilt is class warfare. But to even utter the words “how hard it is to have a lot of money” is just asking for abuse. As others have pointed out, someone who says that should try living under the constant stress and strain of not being able to pay your bills or mortgage. It nearly turned my stomach to read that “how hard it is to have a lot of money” quote.
My wife and I are kind of in the same place you are, we have both have worked our butts off, lived in a small ranch, buy a new mid-price car with cash every four or five years (well, I do, but my wife doesn’t drive much so hers is six years old now) don’t spend profligately, vacation modestly, occasionally go out to eat extravagantly once every few months.
We have saved like mad, paid our mortgage off early, improved our house affordably. We bought a few pieces of nice artwork and furniture, but for the first fifteen years of our marriage, we had used furniture. We could have bought some new, but...we didn’t see the need.
If I want something, she generally lets me buy it. And as far as I am concerned, she can buy anything she wants.
But I will say this: the only time in my life I ever wanted for food was when I was in the Navy as a young man and spent all my money too far in advance of payday, and had to eat wonder bread with tub margarine, and drink powdered ice tea for a few weeks. Other than that, I have never known hunger. And I did have times where, when my car broke down or I blew a tire, I had to fret about finding the money to repair it.
But especially now-I am grateful beyond words that I can pay my bills and taxes. I am grateful to have food in the house. I am thankful that when we lie in bed at night, we live in a quiet neighborhood, have a non-leaking roof over our heads, money to pay for gas heating and electricity for air conditioning if it calls for that, and to have our health.
I thank God every single night for all that as I lay in bed waiting to fall asleep.
It depresses and angers me to hear people talk like this couple, even though I suspect they are nice people and don’t have any idea how that sounds to people. It just sounds...wrong and ungrateful. As if they don’t have any perspective on life. They are rich. And it sounds like they feel guilty about it.
I think it boils down to being grateful for what you have, and not obsessing about what you don’t.
Geeze folks,cry me a river!
People who are wealthy should avoid making their wealth their social identity.
Last rule to follow, marry well and stay married.
Well, that takes care of her needs.
But who's going to take care of old baldy-boy, once she forks over two-thirds of the money to the divorce lawyers, one of which she will likely marry.
(Though likely not for her looks.)
Money doesnt bring happiness but it does make life easier.
Same with my wife. I always justify it by saying that a happy wife is a happy life. She treats me like a king because I don't interfere with something that is a huge part of her life. Riding keeps her fit and, truth be told, there is a reason women love bouncing up and down on those saddles which can pay major dividends to their husbands. :-)
Im sure they did that early in the marriage. They didnt become millionaires until age 35.
“I don’t care about losing all the money...it’s losing all the stuff.”
I would definitely keep a low profile. Gold diggers, the “relatives” who magically appear for the first time, suck ups just hoping you’ll sprinkle some cash on them.....Yuck! Not the kind of people I want to be around. I also don’t want to be around snobs. My dad was a doc. We were members at a couple country clubs - one because it had a pool and tennis courts and was nearby. The other was a beach club that started out free to join and by the time I was a teenager cost as much as a nice new car to join. I got to see snobs up close as a kid. My parents and I always detested people like that. My parents called it “the money disease”.
Just curious but what do you think their politics are? Might not even be very political but my guess would be they lean left.
You can give them to the birds and bees.
So I had to save money and have enough saved up for a decent apartment and a car until I was able to find a job that gave me enough income to keep it going. Fortunately I was able to do so and never looked back.
But for those four years, I lived in the enlisted barracks, dined at the chow hall and volunteered for every field exercise that was available (so I wouldn't be tempted to spend money).
It was the discipline of living below my means and always putting something aside. Habits I've had my entire life. I could write a book on how I did that including giving credit for some people that were instrumental in my youth for setting me on that path.
If all the best things in life are free then why is everyone squabbling over the money - CJ Parsons.
If she feels isolated, it probably means that she cuts a cheque in her study and mails it.
I’m meaning to actually go out into a soup kitchen and serve the poor up close.
Divorce can be very costly, in many ways.
Cheaper to Keep Her.
Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.