Your mom’s been gone less than a month? That seems to me much too soon to be making such important decisions. You’re all still grieving. Why not give everyone a few months to heal emotionally before trying to settle the estate?
I sympathize with your anxiety, and I appreciate your desire to do the right thing by everyone. But as a single, middle-aged caregiver myself, I absolutely ache for your sibling. Caregiving is an all-consuming, often harrowing, 24/7 responsibility that ends only with tremendous loss. Now here she is, alone, exhausted, ill, and faced with losing her home. She must be dealing with unimaginable pain and fear right now. Please, set the money worries aside for a while and make sure she’s okay.
I know it seems soon. I am feeling a little rushed by another family member. Although, because I did not live in _____ville as I dubbed the area where they all lived, I have not been as involved with my mother's death/care and emotionally I can sort of separate myself from the property. I think we are rushing DUE to the grief, at least two of us are. That is how we are dealing with it. You gave fantastic advice. Wonder how I can work out a delay...