Posted on 02/04/2020 4:12:18 PM PST by ConservativeStatement
Seven in 10 women think there is a societal pressure for women to become subordinate by taking their husband’s last name after getting married.
That’s not all — another element of marriage that makes women feel stifled is the joint bank account.
(Excerpt) Read more at nypost.com ...
Or go towards guns and ammo...
We have friends happily married 50 years who have separate accounts...he’s a financial guy...she’s a dork with numbers...so...sometimes IT IS better...but I think it can be a trust problem ...and frankly I never wanted a separate account...makes things More complicated. Altho these days being married doesn’t seem to mean much to financial institutions. ..you have to get Permission for each other to talk to, or access the others accounts. It’s crazy.
The “others accounts” means what we thought were JOINT accounts.
Keeps it simpler for the divorce attorneys.
in today’s day and age of stepparents and stepkids its often better to have separate accounts. Especially when bioparent indulges in disney parent spending.
Nobody understands Holy Matrimony anymore. The two become one flesh.
God Bless you, your husband and your wonderful family!
Either take your husband’s name, or keep your fathers name, or hyphenate them and keep them both.
If you’re obsessing about it, it’s a lose-lose-lose situation.
My taking Mr RooRoo’s last name was very important to him. I was fine with that. He told me later that if I had said no to that he would not have married me. I believe him LOL.
Where I drew the line was on NOT having a joint checking account. I knew too many couples who constantly bickered over their joint accounts, griped about the inevitable overdrawing of the account, unintentional bounced checks, etc.
We have never had a joint checking account and after 25 years, we’ve never had a single argument about money.
In my youth, married women were proud to be known as “Mrs. John Smith”...
I am waiting for “Most men feel pressure to buy a diamond ring” article.
My solution, don’t marry, don’t cohabitate, don’t date, modern women.
Problem solved.
This tells you how gynocentric crap on all strata has become.
When we had the real marriage contracts, the woman got financial security and a house and the man got children that were his. That’s why the surname changes and the kids have his name.
Now in gynosociety where only the man is held to the marriage contract, now changing a womans name is turned into an intolerable problem.
Don’t get involved with modern women. It’s just not worth it, the risks are so much higher than the dwindling rewards. The laws are not on your side, no fault divorce means for any reason, your life is screwed over.
That financial arrangement won’t work for everyone, I’m sure, but it has always worked for me and my spouse-it is a common one in my family, even though my ancestry is Hispanic-odd, I suppose but I was taught to be responsible for my own finances from childhood, as was my male sibling-my parents were very into that...
If circumstances had been different and my 1st hubby’s dad had not been a CPA, we would no doubt have had a joint household account-but I already had purchased a small house-with parental help-by 21, and had my own bank account, credit card, car paid for,etc. My hubby had his own vehicles and credit, too-but not a house, hence the separation of finances his dad helped us set up-we never, ever argued about money.
MrT5 and I each had all our own property from the gitgo-house, vehicles, etc-but the 1st time we acquired community property, we set up a separate household account to pay just for the community stuff-it worked for us-we never fought about money either and had 16 happy years until his untimely death...
Subordinate?
Maleness is a Hierarchy of Competance.
Feminists hook women with lies calling maleness a
Tyrannical Patriarchy. Feminists resent that they cannot compete with competance.
I was proud to take my husband’s name... and we SHARE all of our accounts. I truly dont understand women today. They are one screwed up bunch.
We are going on 38 and we both are happy with the day. People are totally screwed up anymore
You both had the same last name.
So did you take his name, or did he take yours.
Bet you heard that joke over and over.
Exactly right — union and team and partners through life.
Heather Locklear...sigh.
Was that a younger Joe Biden in a cameo sniffing her hair?
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