You are free to die for whoever you want. I do not except the premise that my life is of less value than another human beings life. And my sons life is not of less value than any other human beings life.
Those men who said that women and Children go first are real men. They made this choice knowing that they would certainly perish. They lost their lives but they kept their manhood.
Why you are bringing your son into this makes no sense. And if you are a person who would climb over women and children to save your own skin, then that makes you a coward.