She’s a cutie-pie. It may be just me, but once you reach the brink of the violent part of a relationship, I think it’s time to call it quits (no, I don’t mean the person receiving the violence, but the person on the giving end). If you’re feeling that kind of rage to want to explode on the other person, you need to seriously reassess whether you want to be in a long-term relationship with that person and just walk away before you express yourself as such.
“involves physical and sexual violence, stalking or psychological manipulation” -— No wonder I don’t believe all the propaganda about “domestic violence.” Much of it is not violent at all.
At first, I was going to say “Here we go again, someone looking to raise their celebrity status by being a victim.”
But looking at all she wrote, made me think, she purposely put this out to the public for a solid reason. Perhaps she knows that deep in her heart, she is still weak enough to return to this or similarly abusing relationships.
Now that people know about it, they might help her to remain strong and remain out of such Snake Pits.
Maybe that’s why she’s telling the whole sad story.
I have heard that some alcoholics who want to recover, might have a friend that they call for moral support, when they feel themselves getting a little weak. This might be that.
I wish her well.
She Stupidly shacked up.
She didn't didn't check him out thoroughly during a long waiting period (used to be called an Engagement Period).
I'll bet he didn't give her an Engagement Ring. A sure sign of a creep.
I'll bet she didn't use her parents to thoroughly check him out or she ignored the advise of her parents and/or friends.
She didn't check him out enough to be marital material. If she asked him what he thought about marriage, he probably said "it's old fashioned, you are too sophisticated for that aren't you?" - another sign of a slime ball.
She shacked up with him, finding out what happens to those who do: chaos, domestic violence and commonly divorce down the road.
That's not to say that none of these problems don't happen to those who try their best to be careful. But the chances are significantly less.
For a 99% chance at a successful marriage and family:
Be on the same page about Money
Be on the same page about Parents and Relatives
Be on the same page about Religion
Be on the same page about Children and how to raise them if you want them.
Ask your Parents if they think it is right for you to marry. If parents are dead use the best friends you've got. If the parents are crazy, at least you will have done the right think and proven you are marital material in the process.
Have Pre-marital Counseling with someone you both respect.
For a 50% chance at Divorce/Domestic Violence, Chaos - Shack up - the Devil loves it.