wardaddy - my mom’s best friend was in the early trials for the Birth Control pill.
She had 5 children and didn’t want more. She died at only 34 years of age - from a blot clot to her lungs. She was misdiagnosed, as the docs thought at first it was pleurisy.
I had to take care of her two little boys and distract them the day she died. They were 3 and 5. I was 18 at the time and had orders not to tell them. I was only 18, in shock, and devastated.
Birth control pills have some devastating side effects
I didn’t say they couldn’t have devastating effects.
I said i doubted she had a stroke at 22 from them and I assume she was a non smoker
Despite your moms pal birth control is used worldwide with very few outcomes like your moms friend
I would point out much like LSD...in the early days docs and pharma thought more was better in birth control
Nowadays birth control pills are much weaker like Yasmin
My wife didn’t like the bloating so eschewed them and she smoked then
We have five kids and woulda 20 if we had married at 1880s rural average in the south...say her 16 and me 19 instead of 32 and 40 respectively
However her bestie since first grade died three years ago at 50 from a cardiac event we assume whether ischemia or arrhythmia we don’t know...she’d complained of stomach and back pain and indigestion
And had high blood pressure
Her and her husband since college didn’t want kids so she too birth control and smoked and drank to effect nightly
She had mild agoraphobia ...boxed wine to leave the house
I shan’t speak I’ll of her she defended me to wifey when wifey was on a tear bitching about me.for some usual male offense
We used to worry the combo of the above was problematic
I think 30 years of birth control and smoking did her in early unfortunately
The morning we heard my rib was running across the pasture behind the house as I was feeding the horses
Low to the ground squalling hysterically
My congenital bad heart flipped a few times my worst fear one of our children was killed...she collapsed in my arms squalling about her pals demise...we just sat there with horses around us discombobulated for an hour as she sobbed
It was a bad time.
I recall being at an airport with my mom when my dad got the call from the FBO that my grandpa had died ...she knew from the look on dads face...she just screamed “daddy..oh no....please say that’s not it.....and sobbed just like my wife did for a very long time”
Hard stuff and we almost all go thru it at some point....sudden severe loss