You terming that bizarre abusive behavior ‘weird’ tells me that you have either:
A. Never been married or
B. You hit the lotto, found the unicorn, and a 4 leaf clover all rolled up into a wife...
A lot of behavior we guys look upon as bizarre is not ‘weird’ when evaluated within the female demographic..
I’m married, it must be B. We also have the same views on money, very odd.