Western society is really screwed up.
Feel really sorry for the young guys these days. An unintended consequence of relative economic independence for women is they have little interest in getting married and just want “hook ups” and tinder. As a result, it’s like high school all over with all the girls chasing the few “hot guys” while ignoring guys who they perceive to have lower status or desirability, who they reject pretty shamelessly.
This goes on - for a while.
Like until early to mid thirties when they are starting to look a bit worse for the wear after a decade or so of good times in the party time, hook up culture and fewer and fewer guys are are asking for phone number.
And all those undesirable nerds are finally entering their peak career years after years of putting in their dues.
Now that THEY are successful, the last thing they want to do is seriously date the women who have been rejecting them for their entire adult lives and who they have a serious chip on their shoulder against.
Instead, they are going for the younger girls in their teens and early twenty’s who are working hard at starting the cycle that the now increasingly desperate thirty somethings are at the end of
At the end of the day, everyone is miserable, alienated from members of the opposite sex and increasingly bitter as the prospects of a meaningful relationship and traditional family life with kids fades into oblivion
Yep. This describes the situation to a “T”.
The kinds of men they say they want....ie the “nerds” who got their degrees and built up their careers didn’t do all that work to end up with a woman who has none of her youth left and who they know doesn’t really want him. She’s just willing to settle for what she previously considered an unattractive schlub because now he has his career on track. There is nothing in it for him.
No wonder all these women will complain there’s a “shortage” of good men to marry. No there isn’t. You just played your cards exceptionally badly.
As a consultant I’ve learned this lesson in my career. Be VERY careful about turning down something that is good pursuing something that is great - particularly if that great opportunity is higher risk. You will probably not be able to circle back around and pick up food after great falls through. Then you get knocked down to average and have to hope you can get even that. When you’re offered something that’s good right now.....you should probably take it. It’s exactly the same in dating/relationships.