Uh...Like my wife was...and once the kids came along I became just “staff”...20+ years now...If I had to do it all over...
BTW how does one reply to the original post? I see no link
Part of good marriage philosophy is that the kids, as important as they are, will eventually leave the nest. So its most important to keep the spousal relationship alive and well, otherwise you wind up not having anything in common after the kids are gone.