My white sons keep complaining about “the brown guy” in their day care. How should I proceed?

Slate ^ | June 19, 2019 | JAMILAH LEMIEUX

[EdnaMode]

Dear Care and Feeding,

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My boys seem to like the center so far. The only hiccup has been “the brown guy” that is in their classroom (their words for him … I’ll call him “T”).

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Both of my sons have complained that T has hit them and generally makes a lot of noise in class. I mentioned this to an employee in their classroom (not the teacher herself, who was tied up at the moment), who told me that T has “boundary issues” and promised to make sure the teacher knows what has been going on.

Is there anything else I should be doing here? I don’t love the hitting part, and I would be just as upset if it were any other kid in the room doing it. However, I feel concerned that it’s T that my sons have zeroed in on because he is the only “brown guy” in the room. When they refer to him that way, I correct them with his name. I try not to dwell on differences, and I certainly don’t want to instill biases on them that they may not even have yet. I also don’t want to encourage them to be friends or interact with him if he really is just a jerk.

For now, I think it’s a case of them not liking the loud kid that occasionally may be in their personal space bubble, and they just aren’t sure how to advocate for themselves. Any thoughts or insights would be helpful.

—Don’t Want to Be a Snoot

[tomkat]

One day, son just reared back and cold-cocked the thug. That behavior stopped.

Thus it is in the world at large, from time immemorial.

[kaehurowing]

Always wondered what Mr. T was like as a child.

[bigbob]

Invite the brown guy to get boxing lessons too. It’d be a cheap way for your kids to get to beat hell out of him without getting in trouble and teach him a few lessons that might just put him on the right track. And if the brown parents ask why you’re willing to teach their kid how to fight, tell then because he does it all the time but isn’t very good at it.

[I want the USA back]

That’s a fake letter, designed to make us all grovel with guilt and beg forgiveness for being White. We are so eeeeevvvviiil, that even our kids are racist!
Even a moron can see that the kids in the fake letter are complaining about being “HIT!”. Get it? HIT! That is the real issue here. The kids are saying who did it, and are describing him as the “brown guy.” The a$$hole parent takes that as racism, but it is not.

In Left World, you must let your White kids be hit by Brown kids, or you are racist. Raped too. Mauled too. Robbed too.

[SaxxonWoods]

Are they complaining that he’s brown or complaining that he’s a jerk who happens to be brown?

“Proceed” accordingly.

[ladyjane]

This article is a perfect example of liberal drivel. The author, who is black, turns it all back on the father (or is it a mother?) who is complaining about the brown boy’s behavior.

The author begins by criticizing the screen name Snoot - because it is the root word of snooty, someone who is classist. Then she claims there are significant differences in how he/she would communicate.

Then she claims that the brown boy may just be trying to communicate. The boy is brown in a room full of white boys. He’s vulnerable because the staff hasn’t taken measures to ensure his safety as well as their own ability to treat him fairly.

Her deranged comments go on and on and culminate with: “Far be it from me to suggest that your sons are straight-up lying, but “the brown guy did it” is a time-honored refrain in this country,

This is the kind of crap children in our government and private schools are exposed to. No wonder, by the time they get to college, they are unable to think clearly.

[glorgau]

Mention “the soft bigotry of low expectations “

[HarleyD]

Dear Don’t Want to Be a Snoot

For their birthday buy your sons a 9mm semi-action pistol. At their ages they will only get probation.

Love,

Care and Feeding

[txrefugee]

Having seen parenting change even in our own family circle has led to the conclusion that there is only a tiny sliver of a chance that children reared by Leftists will grow up to be normal adults.

[Manuel OKelley]

Spent my later childhood and teenage years in a predominately non white lower middle class area that was surrounded on several sides by housing projects.

It’s wasn’t white kids trying to take my wallet or bicycle and I’d come home beaten a bruised almost weekly for a while but I’d hold my ground against 3-4 all the time and usually at least a couple were in worse shape than me every time.

and after a couple years the problems stopped as word got out there was a white boy who would fight to the death if messed with.

Thing is, I’d been picked on when I was very young so my dad started teaching me to box-—he was very good (nearly won a fleet championship) and he was also a master of fighting dirty having grown up in oilfield towns and playing in bars since he was 14 and taught me those things as well—that winning was all that mattered

It’s pretty simple, fathers need to teach their kids how to defend themselves no matter what social class, race, or however they grow up.

[Sgt_Schultze]

Dear dad,
You are writing to Slate magazine. You are a leftist tool who hates his own race. If you didn’t have contempt for people of color, you wouldn’t excuse bad behavior - you would hold hem to the same standards as you hold your own children. You are white and this topic reveals your white privilege. Tell your racist sons to get used to the rules you have written and the world you have built for them. This is their future..

[Tucker39]

Years ago: Friends had a son who was being pushed around. Father signed him up for karate lessons. The son’s problems dwindled away. The son eventually earned a Black Belt designation, went to college, became a chiropractor. Now happily married and a godly husband and father. All is well.

[VeniVidiVici]

LOL!!

I had to Google the word snoot. Contextual clues proved correct, and it is, as I suspected, the root word of snooty—someone snobbish or classist—but I’ve never heard anyone use it before.

Ya, right. Take advice from this idiot. I'm sure Slate pays by the word after reading this hooey. (look it up, honey).

[bgill]

It isn’t PC to correct the behavior of minorities. Leave your kids in the day care with the brown boy and let him express his anger toward them every day. Be thankful the day care is diverse. To ease your feelings of concern, pay the day care double tuition.

[metmom]

How about being a parent and taking the resposibility raise your own children YOURSELF?

Take them out of the stinking day care and be a mom or dad for a change.

[DPMD]

“Boundary issues, “ my ass. His problem is one of verticality; he hasn’t been horizontalized by someone yet.

[BuffaloJack]

We told my grandson (in the same situation) that everyone has a right to defend himself. The kid kept it up so my grandson jumped into the air and kicked the kid in the mouth (split lip & blood). The school called us in. We told them that it was the school’s fault for not taking control of the situation when my grandson complained to the teacher and to expect more if they didn’t keep the feral kids under control.

[Bigg Red]

::Is there anything else I should be doing here? ::

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Yes, take care of your own precious children at home instead of subjecting them to the warehousing and potential abuse that is day care.

[Pollster1]

For now, I think it’s a case of them not liking the loud kid that occasionally may be in their personal space bubble, and they just aren’t sure how to advocate for themselves.

When someone else's fist is "occasionally in your personal space", that's a problem. I hope these kids grow to be independent enough to advocate for themselves, because their mother is all-in for the political correctness agenda, and she doesn't care about her own children.

[Bigg Red]

Well said!