So what if the marriage rate dropped? That's not the problem.
I completely disagree. Strong marriages with kids growing up with 2 parents has been the bedrock of Western society for 600 years. In the last 60 years we've seen kids born out of wedlock go from 10% to nearly 50% and rising rapidly with whites catching up to blacks and Hispanics (both over 50% already). Kids born out of wedlock do significantly worse than those born in wedlock. Combine that with the fact that the birth rate has also plummeted for much of the same reasons, and we are in a massive path of decline in the west and one of the reasons socialism plays so well these days.
But you didn't provide links - at least not to me. But it doesn't matter. Statistics don't tell us the whole story, anyway.
Strong marriages with kids growing up with 2 parents has been the bedrock of Western society
Yes, strong marriages. Strong marriages require honesty. As I wrote in my post, people who have trouble with monogamy shouldn't marry.
Notice I wrote "people." I'm not talking about men only. I'm saying that some men and some women should never marry anyone. They're just not built for marriage.
For every time a woman has legitimately been screwed over financially or not seeing her kids, 10-20+ men in the same or worse boat
I have to disagree. Sure, some men have been given the shaft, but others aren't telling you the whole story.
I don't know why you and your wife are divorcing. Whatever happened, it sounds as if you yourself are financially successful and still young. I don't know the laws in your state. In my state, if the ex remarries or cohabitates, the alimony ends. (How long do you think your ex is willing to stay single?) Also here, if one spouse isn't employed, an income is imputed to that spouse, anyway, based on what that spouse could earn, and that amount is deducted from the alimony payments. Also, there's room to negotiate.