These days I tell people who have a rebellious teen to just let them go. There is no saving them, the culture and the laws will not let you intervene. And they will ruin your life as they scorch everything in sight on the way out the door.
I just told my cousin’s daughter that about her 13 year old daughter. She has 2 younger ones she needs to look out for and let the 13 year old go or she will ruin everyone’s lives. This 13 year old started at 12. Running away, having sex with older boys, accusing family members of rape, etc. She has been removed from the home and the mom is fighting tooth and nail to get her back...while the girl doesn’t want to go back. She was placed with the dad’s grandfather who is lenient and lets her do what she wants. I said....there is no fixing her. Let her go. If you actually succeed in getting her back it will be worse than before.