My pet peeve is constantly being seen.
People insecure in grammar turn “they
gave it to him and me,” into “he and I”
because ‘me,’ in their minds, might be
incorrect and besides, sounds low class.
So they use ‘I’ for both pitcher and catcher.
I wince every time I hear it, which means
I wince a lot.
Oh! Man - I looked at your FR profile and you’re asking me a question? I’m not nearly as equipped as you are at the use of words. Great profile...
I also cringe when the use of “I” and “me” is used improperly and I learned probably from school days which were many moons ago that if a sentence doesn’t work with “I”, don’t use it. I have no idea what the rule is...but I do know it’s wrong when I hear it and I hear it every day on news programs.
“The movie was upsetting to my sister and I”. Will it work if you say, “The movie was upsetting to I?” No? Then you want to say, “The movie was upsetting to my sister and me.”
I think a good ear for such things is as important as knowing the rules of the game....so I go by sound. If it doesn’t sound right, change it!! It’s worked for my 80+ years and I’m not about to change it...
This will work to muddy the waters:
https://www.thoughtco.com/confusing-i-and-me-1857097
~~~~~All you have to do is leave out the second object. Look over these examples, and you’ll see it’s really simple.
You might be tempted to say:
WRONG: “Would you explain that to John and I?”
But then, when you omit the other object, you’ll have:
WRONG: “Would you explain that to I?”
Now that just sounds silly. Try this:
RIGHT: “Would you explain that to John and me?”
RIGHT: “Would you explain that to me?”~~~~~~