11 qualities in men that women find attractive

Business Insider ^ | Rebecca Harrington, Tech Insider

[SeekAndFind]

Be honest, straight men: You all want to know what women want. Luckily, a bunch of scientists have wondered the same thing.

These types of studies are often small, and frequently rely on self-reported feelings in a lab, which may be different from how women truly react in real life. And the participants are often Western college students, who are not an especially a diverse group. So take the results with a grain of salt.

But hey, whatever helps, right?

Here are 11 science-supported traits that women find irresistible.

1. Good looks can be a factor, but they're not as important as you may think. In studies, women typically choose better-looking guys for flings, not long-term relationships.

2. A sense of humor is important to women. Scientists have found it makes men seem more intelligent.

3. For long relationships, women tend to prefer altruistic men who are kind and do good deeds.

4. In studies, women choose men posing in front of expensive cars or apartments, versus ordinary ones, possibly because they make the men appear rich.

5. Women may like older men because they've had time to accumulate more resources.

6. Facial hair has been an attraction and a repellent in studies, so that feature is likely based on preference. Do what you want with your face; you'll attract the right mate.

7. Older research concluded that people liked when other people liked them, but recent studies have found that "playing hard to get" could be an effective tactic. When men are unavailable, that might make women want them more.

8. Small studies have indicated that men with dogs do better with the ladies.

9. In one speed-dating experiment, women were more attracted to men who were mindful — present, attentive, and nonjudgmental.

[ladyjane]

There is no free lunch. ;-)

Actually there probably are some free lunches but they are few and far between.

[bgill]

I like myself just fine.

[DesertRhino]

Well good! I a glad for you.

[Osage Orange]

Leon?

[Osage Orange]

LOL!!!!

[avenir]

Meeeeow! Lol.

[OIFVeteran]

I agree there are women like that. Though I don’t think it’s the majority. My step-sister is one of those. She’s been married three times and the last husband ran up her credit cards and wiped out her bank accounts when he left.

You could probably stick her in a room with 100 guys and 99 of them are good men and she would zone in on the one ahole in The room.

May I also suggest that you should look at who your attracted to? I know I was always attracted to women that had problems. Their dad was an alcoholic, their mom beat them, uncle molested them, etc. Thought I could be a white knight and save them. I would get friend zoned or dumped for a bad boy. I finally dated someone that was not my typical type and that I wasn’t strongly attracted to. I fell madly in love with her and we have been together for 25 years now.

[OIFVeteran]

Saw a study years ago done in England. They were looking at genetic similarities in siblings for some reason. But what they found is that in about 20% of the couples their was a child that was not the husbands, and he had no clue.

[Beautiful_Gracious_Skies]

So I searched hot Hollywood actors:

Chris Pine looks pretty good.

[OIFVeteran]

In high school I would get dumped for a bad boy or get friend zoned. Joined the military and decided to be an ahole with the woman. I was swimming in them. Also met my wife that way, but dropped the ahole routine after I was sure she was in love with me.

[Paleo Pete]

***May I also suggest that you should look at who your attracted to? I know I was always attracted to women that had problems. ***

That’s what I started to do after doing some research about it and finding out what was going on. Also realized I was attracted to the wrong type myself. So I tried to change that. Soon as I find out a woman has a couple of abusive jerks in her past, see ya...

I did find one exception though, not sure how but I just had an instinct she was trying to pull out of it so I gave her a chance. We dated for over 4 years and had a great time. Same thing eventually happened, but she was up front about it, she didn’t lie, play games or just *POOF*...told me what was going on and said see ya later. I don’t have any regrets or animosity...and she turned out to be probably the best I’ve ever been with. I never regretted it for a minute...

[SauronOfMordor]

Some men are addicted to the adrenalin rush from things like sky diving.

Some women are addicted to the adrenalin rush of being in a relationship with an explosive man. To them, nice guys are boring.

[OIFVeteran]

Not only that, they are unhappy most of the time. I love my wife with all my heart and soul but she is hard to make happy. A lot of them also seem to love drama.

[blueunicorn6]

I have a female cousin who fooled around with this poor, ugly little bastard who was married.

He dumped his wife and married my cousin.

Dumped her and married another woman.

Had seven wives and a bunch of kids before he died.

My Dad said,

“That poor, ugly little bastard sure got around.”

[OIFVeteran]

I don’t know how much research you’ve done on attraction and mating in humans but I’ve done quite a bit. There are several difference between an alpha male and alpha female. The one I find very interesting is an alpha female can, if she chooses, mate with pretty much any male. With alpha males there will always be some women that would not want to mate with them. Goes back to woman being more selective than men with who they mate with.

[rollo tomasi]

A question to all females, how many different sexual partners have you had?

If just the person you are married to, great, however, the more different sexual partners females have, then the less likely pair bonding can be achieved in females.

Young men have a problem with this because more females are “giving it up” to different men starting around sophomore/junior year of high school. The dating world right now is a lot different than 40-60 years ago. The sexual revolution screwed everything up.

Manwhores are just as bad because they help enable this behavior. Since more women are more "independent", they fight over the top men. Seriously, how many women marry down with? Pick on the males, a lot deserve it, however, the same percentage of females are just as pathetic due to their entitlement demands.

Women are more prone to hypergamy the more different sexual partners they have though.

There is a reason why God established monogamy, hated divorce, and punished the Old Testament men/rulers who engaged in polygamy. In short, God understands human nature.

[fso301]

6. Facial hair has been an attraction and a repellent in studies, so that feature is likely based on preference. Do what you want with your face; you'll attract the right mate.

Beards are one thing but my understanding is the stubble look constantly pushed by Hollywood and Madison Avenue is more of a gay thing reflecting desires of the directors moreso than that of real women.

[healy61]

That is Jack Spratt, and Jack’s wife.

[gunsequalfreedom]

[Pollster1]

That. Those who post about large wallets must be men without a clue.

As a man with a large wallet, I've found that many women find that uncomfortably attractive. The same women also like the fact that I am unavailable and go overboard to make their point clear when I miss the more subtle hints. It's not that men who say this are clueless, it's that they are only talking about some women - and not the cream of the crop among women.