One of the things I learned during my life is that when people ASK FOR ADVICE, it means they already KNOW the answer, they just don’t LIKE it.
I would say this is the case for you.
I know the answer, I am just stymied about how to get this to happen. The other memvers of the family dont want to face it and are being upheld by friends and pepole they know who encourage them to keep Rover alive.