Menopause is brutal on y’all
No question
It’s not that bad if you stay active and positive.
What’s really brutal on women is when they’ve given absolutely everything to husband/kids/home - and when kids have grown and husband died, they have nothing to fall back on; they never developed an inner life or interests that could keep them positive.
Women don’t seem to let this happen to them as much today as they did in the past, but I know some widows who are just letting themselves fall apart and drift away...and it happens a lot easier, more insidiously, than one would think.