Back in 2003 my 16 year old son suddenly died.
About 2 years later I was in a meeting with some of my coworkers. One of them who I did not know was ranting about their child and mentioned to the effect they wished they would just go away. I replied to her comment, “I’ll trade you.” The conversation abruptly ended.
The love for our children goes way beyond the grave. Most never realize it.
I wish I knew what to say when situations like yours come up. But over time, I’ve learned not to say anything at all and simply respect your privacy and grief.
I’m so sorry for your loss
Condolences on your loss.
I’m sure that you realize that everyone here is just joking, and that parents who say that in a moment of frustration are just blowing off steam. I’m glad that you have the presence of mind to bring them some perspective - because you are 100% right. Note that it also works both ways...I still miss my Dad and my grandparents, and no one complaining about theirs for any reason really gets much sympathy from me. Our loved ones are truly irreplaceable.