Posted on 09/10/2018 7:20:07 PM PDT by terart
Please forgive me if you think this is a dumb post....really don't need the slams right now as I posted this in chat and said it was a complete vanity. My only daughter's wedding is supposed to take place this Sunday in Va Beach and sadly we just got the call that the area is now under mandatory evacuation. I know this is bad news for everyone in all the areas affected. Just dealing with it right now in my home...all the planning. Daughter tried to do everything the "right" way for her. Lived at home with parents, went to college, got engaged (still lived at home), planned a beautiful wedding. Now all she can think about is she wanted the excitement and feeling with the first dance at the reception, Father/daughter dance...probably most women are going to be the only ones relating here. Anyway, we are suggesting she still having an intimate wedding through the hurricane then going on the honeymoon on Monday (if there are flights). Anyone have any input- if we push everything back and do a second ceremony/ reception later for our close family who live out of town (grandparents, etc) should she just forgo the wedding and just do a reception. Fell bad with them not seeing her walk down the aisle etc...just sad tonight :( and now have to possibly plan our own evacuation and getting house ready for the storm.
Beautiful!!
thanks all who have replied...you are helping with my frustration and sadness right now...I appreciate you all letting me vent.
Post of the day.
All of you should try this together, it always works for me...
“What is the RIGHT thing to do?”
Not what I “want” or what others “need”..... simply what is the right thing to do.... it’s like Occam’s razor.
congrats to you and your daughter! How about,,,,two father-daughter dances! An intimate wedding for those who can attend, with a small afterparty, and then a second ‘normal’ reception for everyone. The bride can wear her dress again, stand in front of everyone at the reception under a ‘wedding arch’ of maybe bamboo and flowers, and repeat an abbreviated “I do”s or poems to each other, and on to the dancing! At the end, everyone forms an aisle of two rows, couple walks down the center being showered with origami airplanes or petals in lieu of rice, as they leave the reception for their (first or second!) honeymoon. Whatever you do, enjoy the moment and find the humor in it. You have raised your daughter in such a way that she has been blessed by the right man being sent into her life, and she into his, and that is, after all, what matters in the end. So have two dances and laugh with joy! :)
You can only put your arms around her and tell her you will stand behind whatever she wants. If she decides to go ahead the important thing is her parents will watch their beloved daughter get married.
My daughter wanted a beach wedding. Panama City Beach. Planned for a year. One uninvited guest: Hurricane Irma. Preacher was talking as fast as he could, but just after the vows, here comes the surf! 30+ mph wind, fun stuff! It actually was a hoot, and quite memorable. No evac order, so that’s a bummer in your case. I hope it all works out.
Just name the first born Windy.
She wants it to go on, go on! It may be sorta trashed. Fewer guests may come. Carry on with plan b in case no one can get there or it’s just impossible somehow.
My wedding was interrupted by a parade and a funeral. We soldiered on. Go for the intimate wedding and have a big party later on. From one bride to your daughter, it’s not the wedding that makes for a great marriage; its the shared values of the husband and wife. We celebrated our 25th Anniversary this year and my husband is the love of my life. Life will throw challenges your way; how you work together to overcome them and find happiness in the storm, will determine if the marriage will last.
I think your idea of an intimate ceremony with whoever can get there sounds good. Also sounds like she is onboard with that idea. You can have a reception later. Everyone will understand. God bless.
Amen to that. A long marriage will have its share of disappointments and rain-outs. They're getting acknowledged as partners in married life already! This is their first test.
A long marriage will have its share of disappointments and rain-outs.
Yes, but when you get thru that stronger there is no relationship more rewarding, and God is in the mix even if you do not know it.
But Freepers know it. Also, God made man and woman, when the two work together, goodness prevails.
God Bless America
Sounds like you raised her right and congrats and all that.
But our culture increasingly has our young women, especially, IMO wrongly focused on the “perfect”, expensive wedding.
Far better to squirrel most such funds away for a down payment or rainy day and just have genuinely close family and friends with a simple day of enjoyment. In fact, getting blown out of your elaborate plans might be the best thing for actually having the latter, somewhere safe and dry instead. Or a marriage that is consummated with a simple celebration at a later date.
Our country values and priorities are being consumerized away.
thanks all truly! some good words of wisdom in a crappy moment...after many many tears, our daughter is finally facing it and realizing this too shall pass. We reminded her there are thousands of brides crying and we know of one who literally had to reschedule her wedding till May because of venues already filled. Thankfully, all the vendors and venue/church was able to give her 2 dates within the next 2 months that she can pick from and still keep everything the same with no deposit lost- NOW THAT IS A BIG BLESSING! She is throwing around the idea of getting married anyway this weekend just her, her fiance and the pastor and then going on the honeymoon but even that may push back without an issue so all in all they came out of this much much better than some...I will just keep reminding her of that :) Thank you again!!
I know it is disappointing but that is the way life goes.
Do not put the wedding off because the groom may feel that he is secondary to the party and that can start things off on the wrong foot.
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