That pretty much goes without saying ...
Why do you feel the need to convince other people?
She does sound like she feels the need to convince people she’s really, really happy. I’ve never married, never had children, never wanted either, am very happy with my life, and don’t see any need to justify my decision. My sister has been married for over 20 years, has three great kids, a wonderful and supportive husband, is very happy with her life as well, and so far as I know doesn’t see the need to justify her life either.
LOL. I’ve been married for 30 years or as I like to call it ‘10 wonderful years’. My anniversary present to her this year was to stop referring to her in public as ‘my first wife’.
I am 46, single, never been married and have no children. I consider myself content.
However, I often wonder if I missed out and I do worry about being old and alone.
But no woman has come.along that is willing to be with me. With my luck, when one comes along she will be a hard core leftist. No thanks!
>Why Won’t Anyone Believe Me?
1) The article is in the NYT
so
2) I assume you are liberal
and that means
3) You cannot be happy
Her kids (or lack of kids) have nothing to do with it. Liberals have a weird condition
* they’re optimistic - just “pass a law” and the world will be great.
while at the same time
* they’re pessimistic - the world sucks (no matter what laws have passed recently).
Even if the latest law does exactly what they wanted and fixed their main issue, they’ll find another issue to be unhappy about. And pessimism Trumps optimism in their life.
You cannot be liberal and happy.
Congratulation for a great PR idea to sell your upcoming novel about a woman in your situation. Tons of women will buy this best seller!
RWA
Am I supposed to believe anything in the NYT? It’d be the first time.
It’s easy to be alone when you are young. She isn’t thinking past her next year, if that.
The day is coming when she will need someone to drive her home after a hospital stay of some sort.
She has yet to realize selfishness has a price. A high one.
She is an involuntary single.
There's a whole genre of this stuff. The supposed rationale for writing these screeds is always that other people constantly question the author's decision to remain single and/or childless, and she needs to set them straight. So, they tell the world about their amazing, worldly, free-as-a-bird lives. The fact that they think anybody wants to read this crap shows their narcissism, and probably explains why they're alone. Eat, Pray, Love, spin that wheel.
I believe him.
Some people are just not meant to be parents of a child and thankfully they realize this. Many more do not and the children suffer because of it.
I was not blessed with children but (I think) I make a much better uncle.
Biytch, are you really happy? Then why are writing a proposal for a memoir about being a single woman over 40 without children?
You wouldn’t be a good mother anyway.
Wait until you’re in your 70s. You’ll still be child free. But you’ll also likely be friend-free, lonely and likely a source of worry for those few more distant relations who you remain in touch with. At least that’s what has happened to nearly all of the kid-free Boomers I know. Aging is miserable without the joy of children and grandchildren.
For females, and on the other end of the scale, we have the insol - involuntary solitude.
I noticed that the “well-known older male writer” apparently was there alone, since no mention is made of a spouse it’s likely he isn’t married. What’s good for the gander should also be good for the goose, should it not?
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maybe no one cares?.
I think she needs new friends. Anybody that insists you must be miserable is actually miserable themselves and doesn’t want the people around them to be happier than them.
The lady doth protest too much, methinks.