Posted on 06/10/2018 6:27:49 AM PDT by savedbygrace
Good idea. A caller to Tim Conway’s show Friday night (which I listened to yesterday on the podcast) had the same thought. Find something admirable about the person and compliment on it. Especially something they said or did. Support them.
The only thing that makes me suicidal (get the feeling that I should be gotten rid of) if when I find myself believing I am a hindrance in the world. That the world would actually be improved by my leaving. And this feeling is felt by a lot of people EXCEPT the few whom the world would be better without. If you get this feeling, and lots of do sometimes, you aren’t one of those.
And the last time I felt like this, I told no one. I didn’t even want to burden my best friends with this feeling. I felt sorry for them because they are busy and they’d feel they’d have to take time from their lives to help me and I felt it would be a waste of their precious time. That is what suicidal people think. So best would be just to keep telling those you love, like, or feel might be down about life, some of the greatest things about them that they probably don’t realize. Slip these things into your conversation with everyone and help people feel worth something.
I guarantee (if drugs weren’t his issue) that night, Tony Bourdain had friends he could have called who would have helped him, who would have told him no woman is worth that pain, that anyone could see by their photos and comments that he was the needy one in that relationship, and stayed with him, but he didn’t want to BOTHER THEM. So he didn’t call.
“Lock her up!”
Be sure to at least let her have shoe laces...
This is how the simple act of compassion has been turned into a verbal minefield for people. You want to be compassionate and say something, but she is actually offended that you didn’t read her mind and choose the right adjective.
Western Civilization with it’s intertwined rules for living ... (safety nets to keep the thin veneer of civilization in place) is being replaced by... nothing.
The culture’s collapsing. It’s all interconnected: School shootings, suicides, low birth rates... and social isolation.
>>Either we are allowed to try and assuage hurt or our top priority is standing tough and being quiet Lest We Offend.
The minefield was laid down for men way back when “Men Are From mars. Women Are From Venus” came out and men were told that good communication is only possible when we suppress everything we stand for and communicate as women. Then, the gays joined in (vs the heterosexuals), the blacks (vs the whites, and then it became super-sensitive with White Priv and the newer, more restrictive, Unconscious Bias). A Christian can’t have a difficult conversation with a non-Christian.
The new commandment is what you said, “Lest We Offend”. It is far better to just let people do what they want and if they try to do it you then you shoot them.
I’m a Vietnam/Cold War vet.
NO MATTER how crazy it looks, how bad it gets, how sick I’ve been (and being human possibly sick again), I am, just MY LIVING is one more day’s worth of thumbs in the eye of the Leftists-Communists in America.
MY LIVING gives me joy with each brain melt by a brainless talking head on TV, every “what-th?” uttered by some dad-blamed politician at any level, and every “reporter-journalist” being smacked down with their illogical utterances.
Yes, there was one day where I did ask the ‘to-be-or-not’ question, and that was on the day that Peter Jennings was having an orgasm over the North Vietnamese Army ‘liberating’ Saigon, the, then, capital of South Vietnam.
Yet, I AM HERE. So, it is possible.
I agree that compassion and faith are important.
BUT.....the core component is accountability. In general, all people have problems. Those that do not know how to solve problems turn to outside forces (drugs, victim mentality, blame others, abusive relationships, etc.). Others understand that their decisions are responsible for the problem, thus making different decisions to eliminate the problem.
Until people realize that their decisions created the situation, they are powerless to change it.
This analogy excludes severe mental illness.
“Popular Narcissism” is to blame.
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Hopelessness and giving up. I know of people living in excruciating neurological pain from anti-biotics. There is no cure. Many do give up waiting for what could be many years until the reaction is appeased on its own.
It’s very sad, isn’t it? It’s like twisting logic into Möbius strips, seeing Bill Clinton saying he’s always been a supporter of the #MeToo movement.
Instead of “Lest We Offend” being our highest social goal, it should be Honest Compassion. And that means people might use the wrong words, but they are trying to communicate that they care.
That would put a dent in the numbers.
You left off the leading "F"...
And, your ad hominem follow-on confirms your debased status -- in both class and a full sigma down on the bell curve.
Seek help.
Affirmative action. Exemplified at the youngest age by giving everyone who plays a sport a trophy. Thereby destroying the will to win and teaching slavery.
And the last time I felt like this, I told no one. I didn’t even want to burden my best friends with this feeling. I felt sorry for them because they are busy and they’d feel they’d have to take time from their lives to help me and I felt it would be a waste of their precious time. That is what suicidal people think.
This.
Liberalism is SATANIC and Satan wants us all to die without knowing about and receiving the gift of salvation no matter the means.
I’m not. Let the weak minds off themselves.
I have fought depression since the 80’s. Had a very happy childhood emotionally even through poverty and loss. My depression is medical and even had epilepsy for 15 years. Controlled now through holistic care of self. My mornings begin with the sacrificial prayer of praise and thanks. What really gives me so much deep joy and peace is singing along with these men (my son’s dog howls with me)
https://sovereigngracemusic.bandcamp.com/album/together-for-the-gospel-live
https://sovereigngracemusic.org/music/albums/together-for-the-gospel-live-ii/
https://sovereigngracemusic.org/music/albums/together-for-the-gospel-live-iii/
Satan hates music and laughter. This is a spiritual war that is tied to our physical bodies. Getting off carbs, eating fats for my brain, and exercising is crucial. Being a visual person I look for beauty in nature that the LORD God sends to me. It’s been a journey, but my motto has been for a couple of decades: “Always an Adventure!”
Never give up. The joy of the LORD is our strength and He alone is our righteousness. Read the Bible, ask Him what He wants you to know. Search for the answers with your own studies. Memorize and meditate on His truth.
For trauma...read “Let God Be God” and see things through heaven’s eyes.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oG0a9WFkgzU
most importantly, don’t believe the lies you tell yourself. Find the TRUTH. God is truth, our lives should be based on who HE is, not on ourselves. We are all as filthy rags but it is HIS righteousness and everlasting lovingkindness that gives us our worth. If our self-worth is actually based on HIM, and He never fails, then our lives are built on nothing less than Jesus and His righteousness. He does discipline in love and mercy, and then He restores beyond our biggest dreams. It is His promise if we just do what He tells us in every situation from failing to winning.
This is the “together for the Gospel” live ii streaming link
https://sovereigngracemusic.bandcamp.com/album/together-for-the-gospel-live-ii
and the third...sorry about the above links
https://sovereigngracemusic.bandcamp.com/album/together-for-the-gospel-live-iii
These hanging "suicides" by prominent males (and likely many young males) like Robin Williams and Anthony Bourdain are, in my estimation, almost certainly the result of autoerotic asphyxiation. In almost all cases they are found in bathrooms (the most privacy). There are no notes. And nobody had any indication that something is wrong.
In other words, the need to have masturbatory organic experiences is so strong that people end up killing themselves in order to achieve it.
You can bet families do NOT want this to get out. And so they're categorized as suicides in order to minimize the shame, shock and embarrassment.
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