Posted on 05/22/2018 8:27:51 AM PDT by OneVike
On May 1, Jason Bigelow’s body was discovered in an abandoned house near High Point. He had been missing from his Asheboro home for a week, and while the autopsy results are still pending, his wife, Anna, has no doubt what the cause of death was.
On April 30, the day before he was found, she posted this on Facebook in one angry, anguished burst:
Jason and Anna’s story begins at Appalachian State University where they were students. One day in the library, he walked up to the pretty co-ed, teasing her that she needed to leave because she was “distracting him and he wasn’t getting any work done.” From there, Jason pursued her romantically, and while she was at first reluctant, soon found herself falling in love.
“My husband is missing and no one has heard from him in 6 days. Even in his darkest of times he would have not gone that long without communication. It’s hard to know what to feel, stricken with fear, paralyzed with worry.
“Addiction, it’s the one word no one wants to talk about, like a dark secret, but it’s destroyed so many lives. To be honest I’m not mad at Jason. If anything I’m mad at the community who looked at him so differently because of his addictions and faults. I feel like God’s grace has never run out on him, but our grace ran out for him. People think here we go again, or it’s another relapse, or if he loved his family then why couldn’t he just quit. I will say this, I have never once doubted Jason’s love for me or the kids.
“Addiction is like a dark cloud that comes in and consumes you, takes away your ability to make a choice and torments your soul. I apologize for my brutal honesty, but maybe that’s what this town needs, not small talks, pretend smiles and bull****. But truth, our struggles, our weaknesses.”
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Nope. Not what I am saying at all. But that is okay. You have a way of looking at it that is not how I do it.
It is my perception of them that is different, not at all their attitude towards what they have to do.
I can have different feelings about something even though I have to approach it the same way. I work in medicine so this is how it works for me.
You don’t. That is for you to decide.
You must not have read the whole article; or if you did, you didn't understand his having had painkillers administered in childhood, then serious pain from a hip replacement in early adulthood, and then another hip replacement -- all before even out of his 30s.
It's still no excuse; but it's not just a casual recreation, either. Doctors are in great part to blame for overprescribing, not taking good histories including ethnic vulnerabilities and any family pattern of addiction, not following up any patients to whom they have prescribed these slow-acting poisons, and not developing effective interventions for patients who do have trouble getting off the pain meds.
You’re another one who didn’t read the whole article.
Some people's body chemistry makes them more vulnerable to addiction than others. This has long been clinically established with alcohol studies; I can only presume various opiods may affect some people more than others. American Indians, Irish, several other groups have been shown to be most vulnerable to alcohol.
Another aspect is the children of teetotalers such as Baptists or old-time Methodists who go away to university, try drinking and soon find themselves bingeing and addicted; because of their family culture they had no drunk uncles or granddads and they had no idea their body type may have been vulnerable.
Yes, 3 weeks ago I went to the "opiod funeral" of the grandson of a lovely Christian friend who has always taught her children and grandchilden the Word in a very loving way. He was 35 and had three kids. We have another in the extended family currently using, a person with a graduate degree, a beautiful home, a very responsible job and many family obligations. I'd like to wring his "doctor's" neck
“You’re another one who didn’t read the whole article.”
I did read the entire article, even down to the point where the junkie couple took their child along on an armed bank robbery.
They are criminal thugs.
For some people with the brain chemistry associated with depression, the addiction is to adrenaline. They engage in risky behavior such as gambling, illicit sex, extreme sports, etc to a ruinous degree because the rush of adrenaline provides a temporary relief, only to find themselves needing more and more.
The good news is that newer brain studies (in many cases aided by research at Walter Reed dealing with brain-injured combat veterans and other places dealing with stroke victims) are finding that the brain is more plastic and capable of healing and growing new neural pathways to take over the functions of damaged ones than previously understood. So no one should ever give up and think they are beyond help, especially the help they can readily give themselves through prayer and postitive thinking. "Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind."
See post 107.
God bless you and your struggle. God never leaves us. You appear to have become the New Man through faith. Praying the same for your son.
Addiction is a physical addiction COUPLED with a mental obsession.
You nailed it. And it’s patients like me who FDA BLACK BOXED drugs destroyed my health and cause Intractable Pain, with no cures, no hope of them, no surgeries to fix anything that are paying the price of those who use Illegal Drugs.
If not for those horrible FDA Black Boxed drugs I’d not have a ruined GI tract, vision issues, Osteoporosis, or a degenerative spine that causes Neuropathy. All OA Drugs are Black Boxed for GI/Heart Disease, Hypertension drugs ALL come with GI/VISION issues. PPI’s destroy your bones. 14 drug reactions to Neuropathy meds and they want to take away the only 1 that works fairly well for a decade.
I’d just be dealing with Fibromyalgia and Hypothyroidism.
NOT a Enlarged Heart with Mitral Valve leak, Ruined GI tract, Vision issues, Degenerative Spine, Neuropathy, and Hypertension, that can’t be treated. ER trips are a pain in the A@@ for Gastro issues. The new lowest Pain Med won’t even treat a headache. Much less the Hypertension 1. Failure to monitor that can lead to a heart attack.
I like it.
It really sounds heartbreaking and wrenching. I feel so lucky yet to not have had any children interested in substance abuse. So far. And I pray they don’t. I hope the rest of your life is spared from this scourge.
Thank you very much. It is an ordeal.
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