Posted on 03/27/2018 6:18:53 AM PDT by C19fan
The marriage proposal is one of the most ritualized moments in modern American life. Growing up, many girls are instilled with a specific idea of how it should go: He’ll take us somewhere romantic—we’ll have no idea what’s happening—he’ll get down on one knee—we’ll start crying—he’ll pop the question—we’ll immediately say yes. It should be magical.
But for a lot of heterosexual couples, the proposal—as movies portray it, as many millennial women have internalized it—doesn’t reflect the kind of modern, egalitarian relationships many women want today. Whom to marry is among the most important decisions most people will ever make in their lives, and yet it’s not a choice made in the course of a conversation—the normal way two grown humans make big life decisions. Instead, it has to be a show, with a prefixed grand finale: “yes.”
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doesn’t reflect the kind of modern, egalitarian relationships many women want today
translation: I was not romantically proposed to, so... sour grapes!
As a woman who owns all her own power tools, wears high heels when I go out to dinner, I loved when my now husband (of 25 years) proposed to me! Oh, I also made sure he voted for Trump!
I still got two out of three.
Classic who you know, rather than what you know.
I wouldn't with someone else's ten foot pole. I've found that you should never hook up with anyone dumber and crazier than you are...
Her father looked at me like I was a jerk and said (I have to believe my Filipina wife translated correctly because I had NO idea except for the look on his face ... which matched the words .. )
She's old enough to make up her own mind.
Thanks, Papa.
Oh, then I would go for the Lean movie. Martita Hunt is deeply creepy as Miss H and the set decoration is especially creepy.
Good point!
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According to an author interview:
Caroline Kitchener graduated from Princeton in 2014 with a degree in History and Gender and Sexuality Studies. She lives in Washington, DC with her partner and her two cats.
I believe that was Jean Simmons first major role. I wish she would say “Boy” to me. :) Add Alec Guinness starting his long collaboration with David Lean.
although it isnt quite what is was or should be, 26 years after proposing to my wife in the kitchen as we cooked pork chops for dinner....we are still here....
Feminist:Fat, manless, and hairy-legged.
Apologies to Bloom County.
Yes, the beautiful and vulnerable Jean Simmons. One of my favorite actresses. Alec Guinness and John Mills, too. We just watched Alec Guinness in Lean’s Passage to India. One of my favorite of Lean’s movies.
Have you ever seen those live proposals at sporting events, like a dude proposing before the cameras at a football game, with everyone there watching on the Jumbotron, and millions at home? And then she says “NO!”
Totally cringe-worthy.
It’s not uncommon.
Here are some, for your watching pleasure:
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During courtship (now there's a quaint word for ya) everyone is on their best behavior. Politeness, sensitivities, and promises exchanged while dating are a long way from real world realities and the daily challenges of marriage. While talking about something may be beneficial, its a long way from living it. A conversation, even multiple ones, are no guarantee of marital success.
The Left loves "conversations" and believes they pave the way for mutual understanding. But in reality, liberals only want to manipulate "conversations" so they can get their own way. They don't compromise, which is perhaps the keystone of a good marriage.
How typical this article is. Another sanctimonious liberal telling others how to live their lives.
My proposal was that my orders had come in and that I was being posted to Georgia to be followed by Aberdeen Proving Ground after nine months.
If she wanted to come with me we would have to be married.
In October we will have thirty years since the wedding.
It seemed unromantic at the time, but it worked out.
Great story! Best wishes for many happy years together.
Stopped reading right there.
The author is the type of woman that causes men to refrain from marriage, or seek a bride from another, less "feminist" culture.
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A fountain of knowledge and wisdom. /sarc
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