Posted on 03/23/2018 6:36:41 AM PDT by C19fan
A relationship expert who describes herself as the 'Get the Ring Coach' has revealed why women looking for marriage should refuse to date men on an exclusive basis - until they propose.
Love and Relationship Coach Sami Wunder, who is based between the UK and Germany, used the same trick herself when she first met Chris, now her husband, by refusing to stop dating other people until he popped the question.
Nine months later he did and now they have been happily married for five years and have a son, while Sami has been responsible for 95 proposals in two years of business - with one taking just three months.
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I really fail to see how its manipulative, honestly.
IF she’s open and up front about it from day one, how are you being manipulated?
Some girl tells you flat out, I have no intention of dating exclusively until I am engaged, its hard to claim that’s being manipulative.
After all, if the intention of courtship is to get married, what benefit does she have to be exclusive with someone who isn’t ready, willing or able to commit to marrying her?
I don’t see this as deceptive at all, or manipulative. I understand it may trigger a jealousy response for some men, who might cause them to pop the question even though they probably shouldn’t... but I fail to see this as manipulative.
Honestly, if a woman’s end goal is to find a husband, why would she take herself off the market just because some guy, who won’t promise to marry her, wants her to stop seeing other people? How does that help her get any closer to being married?
Seriously guys, poop of get off the pot. IF you aren’t ready to poop, get off the pot.. This policy isn’t bad for a woman, its not manipulative. I don’t know if it will always result in the best relationship, but it is hardly a “trick” or manipulative, as long as she’s up front and honest about it out of the gate.
I will guarantee this, a woman who follows that guideline sure isn’t going to find herself in a years long relationship with some peter pan boy who won’t commit, and wondering why.
It will also force any man involved with her, to really think hard, is she the one... is she Ms Right. or just Ms Right now?? And what woman who is looking for marriage whats to be Ms Right now? Seriously, if that’s all you want then, its better she not waste her time.
Grow a pair, man up.. what whiny little boys we seem to have here.
If you don’t like a gal with that policy, don’t date her, but I really truly don’t see anything, tricky, sneaky or manipulative about it as long as she’s up front, when you ask her to be committed, but won’t give her a ring, and she tells you not without a ring, that’s NOT manipulative, that’s just being frank.
If that bothers you, move on to someone else.... because She sure is better off not wasting her time with someone who want’s the goods, but not the responsibility.
I don’t know if its the best policy for a woman, but it sure as hell isn’t sneaky or manipulative.
I’ve been saying the same thing to my female relatives for years. There should just be two things, dating and engaged. The “girlfriend/boyfriend” thing is stupid and pointless.
I agree with he. As long as the women aren’t sleeping with multiple men, they should keep dating other men.
My daughter exclusively dated a jerk for almost 2 years. If she would have dated other others during that time, she would have figured out what a jerk he was quicker.
I have a very good female friend who divorced her then pastor husband when he was caught in the act with another woman, AT CHURCH, by his associate pastor.
She started dating this one guy for 5-6 months and he refused her demand to make a commitment, or she was breaking of their dating relationship. He wouldn’t so she did.
This was less than one month prior to Christmas. She made a very wise decision because at a rather large Christian singles Christmas party hosted by a friend of ours, she met her future husband, who happened to be a former pastor divorced by his wife. They hit it off immediately and were married about six months later. They are an awesome married couple.
Had she not stood her ground, she would have never met the love of her life.
I think the only people who are upset are guys who are worried that their bluff will be called by a woman who doesn't want to keep putting out without a ring.
| Refusing to be exclusive just because you don’t want her dating other people, but won’t ask her to marry you? If that’s a trick in your book, then yes sir, you have little if any character.
You believe what YOU want, should be what another person wants or will acqueisce to, just because YOU want it, and if they don’t that’s a trick or manipulative?
Guys like you are exactly why a policy like this probably isn’t a bad idea, and hate to break it to you there litttle one, but it wasn’t all that long ago that no man would expect, let alone demand, a woman drop all other suitors just because he didn’t want her to see other people, if he wanted exclusivity he knew the ring was the price.
Having expectations is not manipulative or tricky. If the end game of courtship is marriage, it makes little sense for any woman or man for that matter, to stop dating until they are engaged. If that’s too much of a threat to your manhood, then you can move on... and I am certain the woman involved will be quite happy you did, and in fact, is EXACTLY why such a policy would be used by a woman... Why should she waste time with someone who isn’t serious about marrying her?
DING DING DING!!! Exactly!
That’s all this policy does, filters out the folks who aren’t serious, and are just stringing a gal along.
Been married for 12 years, and haven't been "cut-off" yet.
Sorry, I still don’t understand your response to my comment. Also, I don’t agree with your comment that very successful men don’t date much. Very successful men date. Some of them date a lot. Maybe entry level men at Skadden Arps or JPMorgan don’t have time to date much but very successful men do date.
Nope!
All the look of someone who is going to be high maintenance and a very expensive divorce.
8-Crazy, 6-Hot
Sure. It may sound weird in the abstract, but in practice, it's perfectly normal. Imagine you're out, you meet a woman, and ask her out. She says:
"Look, I've got a boyfriend, but we've been going out for 8 months and he won't commit. So I told him that if another guy asks me out, and I like him, I'm going to say "yes", and see what happens."
Now maybe that would be a turn-off for you, but not for me. Because if you get to the point where you're really hitting it off with the girl, she's going to ditch that other guy.
I don't have a problem with that.
I think a lot of people have this idea that until the 50’s 60’s (or whenever) people were not promiscuous and having sex.
Based on what I have seen in my life and what my folks and other older acquaintances have told me things have not changed that much, it’s just in more recent times it’s been more openly accepted and or discussed.
In reality it’s a lot harder to hide these days with our pervasive technology.
LOL and more.
Post of the day my friend
KNOCK IT OFF!
I agree. Traditionally young men and women were encouraged to date a good selection of people in order to make a wise decision on a spouse. If you are not formally engaged to be married you have no obligation to any one person.
I think all women should sleep with everybody.
Women just want to get married so when they leave they can take all your stuff with them leaving you broke and in debt with alimony. They have a code word for that- “security”
Maybe its just the women you know. :-)
Yup
Amen.
Why would you assume that?
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