We had a up & coming young male college intern at work who was offered a job right out of college at a pretty darn good starting wage. I liked the kid, and having a lot of time and experience in the industry I decided to give him some words of wisdom. I told him to be careful about women, as the smart ones would see his upwardly mobile economic track and try to put a leash on him asap. He was a bit reserved on hearing this advise, and I found out later his "girlfriend" was already pregnant (not planned on his part). I was too little, too late in my advise...
Last I heard, he didn't marry her, but does support and co-raise his kid, so i give him snaps for that. That story proved to me that the new generation of females are hunting for a provider, not necessarily a mate...
I once talked to a young man in much the same position, career wise.
He told me his fiancée’s dad offered them a ten thousand dollar check to elope, rather than have him pay for a wedding.
The girl told him “don’t even think about it.”
i told him I’d be very anxious about marrying such a girl.
The poor kid was totally uncomprehending.
“That story proved to me that the new generation of females are hunting for a provider, not necessarily a mate... “
Yep, sounds common. My boys are doing really good financially, easily top 1% (after all, we didn’t send them to public schools), so I’ve told them the same - although went further and told them to simply RULE OUT any woman born in the US, or Western Europe, it’s simply too risky. And, in a way, it’s not even the fault of the women, but of the environment. In traditional parts of the world, divorce is looked at as a failure of the woman to please her man (rightly or wrongly), while in the West divorce is looked at as a way to get free money. So even a girl with good intentions in the West is going to get TREMENDOUS PEER PRESSURE to dump the guy, every time a ‘rough spot’ in their marriage hits. It’s very, very, hard to keep holding out...and many, maybe most, don’t.