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Cheating and manipulation: Confessions of a gaslighter
BBC ^ | 01/11/2018 | Megha Mohan

Posted on 01/11/2018 11:27:01 AM PST by Kid Shelleen

"Looking back it's clear that I was gaslighting the women and slowly making them second-guess their version of reality," he says. He's speaking out now to give insight into the mind of a gaslighter, and to warn women of the tell-tale signs. Gaslighting has been described as psychological abuse where false information is deliberately presented to the victim - the purpose being to make the victim question their own memory and perception of events. ---snip--- "From my experience it's not true that it is vulnerable or insecure women who are susceptible to gaslighting. These were successful women but that came with a perception of what they thought a 'successful' relationship should look like and they shared that. They gave me a blueprint to what they were looking for in a man." The women, he says, approached relationships like they did their careers. With a checklist of qualities, often from relationships depicted in films, and high expectations.

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TOPICS: Miscellaneous; Society
KEYWORDS: gaslighting; manipulation
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To: nickcarraway

Assuming he would not get violent, it would be worth it to hand him some embarrassing and incriminating photographs (video would be even better) and ask him to explain THAT away. The camera doesn’t lie, but you do, Mr. Gaslight!


21 posted on 01/11/2018 2:20:26 PM PST by Cecily
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To: PresidentFelon

Develop a sense of humor and if you don’t find it funny don’t laugh. If you can’t take the heat stay out of the kitchen.


22 posted on 01/11/2018 7:21:23 PM PST by from occupied ga (Your government is your most dangerous enemy)
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To: Snickering Hound



I prefer Bladerunning: Convincing her she's really a robot with artificially implanted emotions.

Despite being a jaded prick whose wife divorced him and called him sushi (cold fish), Deckard quickly realized how cruel he was to Rachel, the Jessica Rabbit of robots.

He more than made it up to her by the end of the movie. Also, Rachel saved Deckard's life, just like that other robot, Roy Batty.




23 posted on 01/11/2018 7:32:55 PM PST by Vision Thing (You see the depths of our hearts, and You love us the same...)
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To: Kid Shelleen

After two years of being completely immersed in all research I could find on NPD and other cluster B personality disorders, I can confidently say she was full on narcissistic personality disorder with heavy comorbidity in antisocial personality disorder, borderline personality disorder and hyper-sexual personality disorder.

To go along with that, she was also an alcoholic. This woman was a nightmare and I eventually had to file a restraining order to escape with my sanity.... And maybe my life.

Persons who have never experienced a relationship with one of these people cannot begin to understand emotional pain they can inflict. This narcopath is also extremely reactive and violent as well as paranoid and sadistic. As I said, she is at least a malignant narcissist if not the worst.... A dark Triad personality.


24 posted on 01/15/2018 8:52:23 AM PST by PresidentFelon
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To: from occupied ga

I’m sorry, gaslighting is just one of the many tools used by the extreme narcissist.

The physical and emotional abuse as well as death threats are not funny. Maybe if you had experienced the same you might feel differently.


25 posted on 01/15/2018 9:00:14 AM PST by PresidentFelon
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To: ViLaLuz

I’m sorry you’re going through that, ViLaLuz. The worst thing is they have no compunction about using their children as Weapons against their ex spouse. They are despicable people.


26 posted on 01/15/2018 9:05:55 AM PST by PresidentFelon
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To: PresidentFelon
Maybe if you had experienced the same you might feel differently.

I doubt it - I almost never feel sorry for myself

27 posted on 01/15/2018 9:39:33 AM PST by from occupied ga (Your government is your most dangerous enemy)
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To: PresidentFelon

Yes, she’s despicable. She’s weaponized her own children against their father. She has no conscience.


28 posted on 01/16/2018 12:06:40 PM PST by ViLaLuz (2 Chronicles 7:14)
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